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Ladies, Don't Drive Yourself Crazy Trying NOT To Be The 'Crazy Girlfriend'

Because if it bothers you enough to bring it up, it is important.

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Ladies, Don't Drive Yourself Crazy Trying NOT To Be The 'Crazy Girlfriend'

What is the most important part of a relationship?

Is it love? Communication? Trust?

There are a lot of important things when it comes to maintaining healthy relationships. You can love a person all you want, but without communication and trust, it means nothing.

Without trust, there often comes a time in relationships where someone begins being "crazy."

"Crazy" stems from feelings of insecurity and distrust. I truly believe people are never inherently possessive, jealous or the dreaded "crazy."

Something or someone created a feeling within them, causing them to think they are inadequate. They act out by being "crazy."

Some people ask a thousand questions to their partners, some people check their partners' activities online and some people even check their partners' locations.

Now, do I feel like that behavior is OK? No, I don't.

However, do I think that behavior can improve, and the "crazy" girlfriend thing can actually be a good thing? Yes.

The thing is, is that there should never be a time during a relationship when you feel so insecure that you have to check your boyfriend's location multiple times a day. There should never be a time when you call your partner multiple times because they haven't texted you back in a decent amount of time.

It is unnecessary for you to feel like you have to keep tabs on your boyfriend all the time, and it is also unnecessary for them to constantly reassure and baby you in return.

It is unnecessary for you to be in a relationship that you don't feel confident in. It is unnecessary for you to be in a relationship where you don't trust your partner.

It is time for you to stop letting lonely thoughts and insecurities give your boyfriend a personality he doesn't have.

He could be the sweetest man on earth, and all of a sudden late at night you begin to think the worst: He's cheating on me. He stopped loving me. He'd rather be somewhere else.

Sure, there is always a chance something is happening that you wouldn't want. But don't drive yourself crazy with hypothetical scenarios. Don't assume things happened with no evidence.

Instead, if you feel like something is going on or if you begin feeling insecure, bring it up with your partner.

Communication is just as important as trust. If you cannot bring up what is going on inside your mind and soul to your partner, then what is the point of being together?

It takes a lot of courage to be able to speak up about your feelings.

If they love you properly and want to make things work, they will go out of their way to actively listen to what you have to say and reassure you about the relationship and the problems at hand.

Don't drive yourself crazy by holding in your crazy.

Work the crazy out together.

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