Now, a couple years ago, I swore to myself that I would NEVER use a dating app or dating website or anything of that nature. I told myself that I wanted to meet someone naturally.
Well, that approach doesn't really work out when you go to a high school in a small town full of wannabe rappers, drug addicts, and rednecks. After numerous failed attempts, I gave up on relationships and decided I would dip my toe into the world of hooking up. And that's what I did this past summer, the summer of my senior year of high school.
I'm currently a month into my first semester of college. A few days into the semester, I figured what better way to meet people on campus than through Tinder? One of my friends was successful in that approach, so I decided I would give it a shot. Tinder wasn't my thing. So, I tried Bumble. I wasn't looking for anything serious. I was just looking for people to hang out with. You know, get coffee, grab food, go see a movie, etc.
Let me tell you: Bumble gave me that and more.
This boy popped up, and I was looking through his pictures. He seemed cute, he had a black cat, and a couple dogs. I read through his bio, liked him well enough. So, I swiped right. It was a match. I messaged first (That's what I like about Bumble), and I said, "I see you own a black cat. Hope you're not bad luck for me ;)". He messaged back right away and the rest is history.
He and I have been together for almost a month now. He is the sweetest boy I have ever dated. He treats me better than any of my exes. He and I have the same thought process when it comes to dating: If I pursue a relationship with you, I'm looking to marry you in the future. He has his struggles, I have mine, but we help each other through him. He and I are the weirdest, goofiest, funniest couple you will probably ever encounter, but I love every moment with him. He puts in 100% and I put in 100%. It's a balanced relationship, and it's so amazing.
The best part? It happened when I wasn't looking for it.
When you go looking for a relationship, you'll cling on to anything that offers the dimmest hope of interest. And that's a dangerous path to follow. I know, I did that for quite a while. But when you stop looking, what you need will come right to you.
So, do something unpredictable. Do something scary. Stop searching.
