Don't Let Him Change You
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Don't Let Him Change You

When being with him becomes more harmful then beneficial.

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Don't Let Him Change You
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There comes a time when you just have to walk away.

Every single person has at least one relationship that they have been in that is unhealthy and someone's feelings get hurt. However, the kind of feelings that I am referring to aren't just hurt. I am referring to the kind of relationship that makes you feel less and less like yourself the further you get into your relationship.

Every time that my relationships have started to fall on that "wayside", I started to overcompensate. That side is pretty evident when your boyfriend starts leaving you on read, whether on Snapchat or text, avoiding seeing you in person, skipping out on typical things you would have done together, etc. So, typical girls, we FREAK out. We start kicking ourselves into overdrive because we see one result in the future, break up. That we condemn as not an option. In a counteract, we overcompensate. Meaning exactly this: we start directing all of our attention to the problem and trying to fix things that we clearly cannot fix.

And what is the result? After some time, you feel like things might be getting better and lie to yourself and say either it is getting better or it will get better. Truth is, darling it is not in your control and it won't get better if he doesn't want it too. All you get from the overcompensation is feeling drained and losing more and more every single day.

Then the worst possible option(or so you thought) happens, you break up. You are left reflecting on yourself and trying to figure out what your next step is, but you don't know what to do because everywhere that you look at yourself you see parts of yourself that are completely unrecognizable.

How do you fix someone you don't know? That's who you have become, a stranger. You have to start all over from square one and figure out how to heal again and how to be happy. The pain is much more incomparable of losing someone when you lose yourself too.

So, here's my advice: Don't let him.

Don't let that one guy change you. Don't change yourself to fit the needs of someone else. The repercussions are all your own if you let yourself be a last priority instead of a first one.There is no one in this world that is going to worry about you if you don't worry about yourself first. Except for your mom because you know, mom's are great.

In the wise words of my momma, "As you go through life's many lessons make sure that you take note who shows up and makes you a priority as you do them. Relationships of all kinds take two people who respect one another first...doors will open and doors will close. They are all steps to find who to surround yourself by."

Find someone who makes you a priority as much as you make them one because there are billions of people on this Earth and there is one out there that will put you first as much as you do them. And you deserve that.

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