I know what you’re thinking, this girl doesn’t believe in love and will eventually die an old, lonely hag. Well the love part is where you’re wrong because I do very much believe in love, just not the conventional kind. Well I am a sucker for a Nicholas Sparks film, I’ve grown tired of them because they are all the same old mushy stuff and these films try so hard to show love that they miss it completely. Love isn’t flowers and chocolates, it’s that good luck text on your first day of work or someone who stays up with you til 3am talking about life, death, and everything inbetween. The films about love lack substance and love is meant to be nothing but. Films are representations of what people want to see, not what’s really there. Real love is laughing when knee your guy in the crotch on accident. To be honest love is meant to be awkward at times and that’s the greatest part! It’s those flaws and little mishaps that make you love your significant other even more because you know that they’re not perfect, just like you. Some people like to hide their flaws from their significant other but revealing them makes the relationship stronger because then you know they they love you for you, not for who they think you are. People try to contain love be defining what it is when in fact love is everything. Love is watering your mother's plants or giving your sad friend a hug. Love in the movies doesn’t show that, they only show the same sappy stuff that doesn’t show that you truly love a person. I use to be a cynic when it comes to love and that was because I thought love was meant to be like in the movies and when I realized that I was chasing a figment of people's imaginations I found what love really was. Love in the movies is seen as perfect when in fact love is caring about someone for their imperfections. Knowing that someone cares about you even though you have a cackle for a laugh and have horrible morning breath makes you cherish that feeling even more. MY last piece of advice for you is to stop looking for what love is supposed to be. Love is whatever you make it and as soon as you stop looking to others to find it it’ll be there waiting for you. And let me tell you it’s pretty amazing.
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Luckily, many colleges offer a number of ways to take part in campus and community life, without forcing you to dedicate all of your time to these organizations. Here are a few ideas!
1. Look into Housing and Dining.
Many first-year students start off college life in residence halls, and the Housing & Dining network throughout campus often provides multiple opportunities for students throughout the year. Many buildings have student community councils that work to create policies and events that make the dorms a more welcoming home for residents. Becoming a community assistant (or the students who work the desks at the front of many halls) is another easy way to have a consistent, well-paying job only minutes away from your room.
If you really enjoyed your housing experience, consider applying to be an RLA, or, if the school offers it, help to teach the first-year community. You'll get the chance to help support new and returning students over the year, and many of these positions also cover major costs like board and meal plans.
2. Pay attention to campus postings.
This advice is more obvious, but it still gets overlooked a fair amount. Even on a busy day, taking the time to stop around campus and look at the flyers advertising clubs and events can draw your attention to something that you never would've noticed otherwise. Students on many campuses also chalk the sidewalk to catch students' attention while they walk to class. Just make sure that the event you're interested in hasn't taken place already!
3. Find common interest groups.
One way to find friends and get involved is to focus on what you're passionate about. Have you always loved to sing? Do you enjoy playing video games? Is photography your favorite past-time? Have you always wanted to join Greek life? Whatever you love devoting your time to, chances are there are organizations around school who are focused on the same thing. Check the student life section of your university's website, or stop by a student organization fair at the beginning of the semester.
4. Join an intramural sports team.
If you're the athletic type, you've probably heard of intramural sports. Often offered through the Rec Center or the residence halls, most colleges often offer various indoor and outdoor sports to take part in throughout the year. Personal favorite? Mini golf.
5. Work on a cause that you care about.
Whether you're passionate about a political group, a social cause, or a religion, working with people who value beliefs similar to yours can be an easy way to meet people, get a better sense of your own identity, and promote causes that are important to you. Look into getting involved with College Democrats, Republicans, or whatever party that you belong to. Find a club that supports social issues, from women's rights to protecting the environment. If you're religious, look into student organizations based on your faith.
6. Join a club related to your major.
Even if you're not entirely sure what you want to do after school, finding a club or organization related to your field of studies can benefit you long after you leave the classroom. From career-related workshops to conferences to professional connections, these groups have a lot to boast.
7. Get an on-campus job.
If you have the time, need to work, or want to save a few extra dollars, finding a job on or near campus is a time-effective way to build up your bank account and gain work experience. Check in your residence hall (see #1), at local businesses and offices, or make an appointment with your school's career center.
8. Volunteer.
When you're caught up in school life, it can be hard to think about the bigger picture. Volunteering your time to people (or animals/an environment) in need puts things in perspective and allows you to feel good while making a positive difference. Check if your college town has a volunteer page, or look up local organizations requesting help.
Best of luck this year! Get out, and get busy.
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