There seems to be this saying that there are roles that women play and there are roles that men will play. A man is supposed to make the money, fix the car, fix the broken pipe, take you out on the first date and court a woman. The woman is supposed to... cook, clean, work (but not for long), and push out babies? Yeah. That would be acceptable in the roarings 20s. Not in modern society! Women are currently thriving! Making money moves! Building and own businesses and making statements and taking names! Women are everywhere doing the damn thing! And yet, the independent woman is usually overlooked. So, why is this happening?

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As I browse through social networking sites, I see subjects such as this happen quite frequently. Men are asked if they're OK with their woman making more money than them. And women are asked if they're OK with the fact that a man could possibly make less money than them? The answers kind of confused me. It's as if I was looking into the past. A lot of men believe that if they're dating a woman who is "doing better" than them, then it "emasculates" them. They start to feel less than. This is a common occurrence when it comes to reading about this. It hurts a man's pride when he splits the bill with his significant other. But, what came as an even greater shock to me, there are women who back up their emotions! There are women to will not want a man who makes less money than her. They will not date a man who is "less than" her status. Women who will say, "If I make more than him then why do I need him around?" Or, "If I'm bringing home the bread why do I need a man around? I can be both." It's painful to read these comments because men and women alike are cutting the playing field down for people who don't have their lives together as much as they do. This baffles me but I am here to say this:

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DON'T LET AN INDEPENDENT WOMAN INTIMIDATE YOU!

The fact that she got her own and she doesn't need to depend on anyone getting it for her just means that she can get everything done herself. It doesn't mean that she doesn't need you, it just means that in certain aspects of her life, she's solid and she doesn't need the help of a man. Look forward to the day that you don't have to spend all of your money on dates cause she's willing to go half with you after a while.

DO NOT THINK THAT CHIVALRY IS DEAD!

There is nothing wrong with telling her to put her wallet away. It just proves that you got it and you don't need her to spend her money. If she offers just politely decline and you can pay. You're not offending anyone by paying for the entire date.

YOU HEAR THAT FEMI-NAZIS!? MEN CAN STILL PAY FOR THE ENTIRE DATE AND NOT OFFEND YOU!

The point is, the year is 2018. There are no more "roles" that people have to play in life. If you're a woman and you know how to change that tire, you change that tire! Don't wait for a man to do it for you. Chances are, he probably doesn't know either. If you're a man and you want to impress a woman by cooking for her, you make the meal! Don't be shy or think a woman will emasculate you because you decided to cook for her and you like to keep your room clean! The "roles" people felt the need to stick by back then means nothing now! The only "role" they have to abide by is their personal life role. And that is something that no one can take or change.