We see sex in books, movies, history and many other places. We see this so much that it is basically normalized. Many people may believe that sex isn't exactly a "big deal". They believe that laying in the bed with multiple partners is something expected in the relationship, and something that should be shared in each one. When it comes to sex there is so much more than just pleasure, or just something to do when you're bored. There is something way bigger than that happens when you engage sexually with someone.
I know it may seem clique in some ways to want to wait, or that waiting seems almost impossible when you're hormonal. But let me tell you why it's worth it.
1. The One From The First Time
When you decide you want to have sex with someone for the first time, it's more than just being stretched out and pleasure. When you have sex with someone for the first time you're giving them all of you. Your insecurities, your vulnerability, your body, and in most cases your soul, a small piece of you. That sounds scary doesn't it? Giving away so much of you, for another person. I hope that fear encourages you to think about waiting. When you get married, you know they are the one. That's the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, and if they weren't then you wouldn't have married them. Being married holds such a strong intimacy that even betters the moment when you get to share each others vulnerabilities. When you share your body with your spouse it becomes more lax when you know that they are way less likely to leave you after you shared so much.
2. Your Body Is A Temple
Your body is a beautiful temple, whether you're man or women. A temple is something that is treated with tons of respect. It is taken very well care of and is also clean and safe. Your body is a temple. It is something that was created so beautifully and that you have cared so much for. A temple can't stay clean and safe if it allows anyone inside it, and the same goes with your body. STD's and STI's are given in two ways, either by birth or by other sexual partners. Some of those diseases are incurable and some may even cause death. A good way to avoid having those diseases if you weren't born with them is to have one partner. If you don't open yourself up to many different sexual partners there is basically a guarantee that you won't receive one of those diseases.
3. The Pleasure
This is the one we are most uncomfortable to discuss. Yes, sex does have very many spiritual connections, but the pleasure is also important. If you were to have one partner, you would be able to learn and grow when you are both intimate. Having one partner for a long time helps one another learn the others body, and things make them feel good. That is difficult to do when you have someone new, that doesn't know your body.
I know I sound an overbearing parent that is just saying anything they can to avoid teenage pregnancy, however I'm just trying to encourage why waiting can be worth it. Waiting until the day you wed to share your soul with someone can help you in so many ways. Like how it can begin to make you feel comfortable, and how you can avoid getting disease, and lastly how you can learn what you enjoy with someone you love very much. So if you were on the fence on whether or not you should wait, I highly encourage you to. I know sex isn't something many of us want to talk about but just know that if you do wait, it may end up being the best choice you've ever made. And I hope that it was worth the wait.
