Self-sabotage. I think we have all done it at one point or another in our lives. Some of us do it way more than others, and some of us are not even aware that we are doing it until after the fact. I happen to be someone who does not realize I am doing until I am looking back on the conversation. I have the tendency to stand in my own way when it comes to relationships, and if you are reading this, you probably do that to. I start unnecessary fights. I bring up unnecessary potential problems and treat is as a right now problem when it does not even need to be a problem right now, and it might not ever become a problem, but for some reason I am over here freaking out about it and letting it cause problems in my relationship with a potential significant other. I don't know why it is something I do, but I just do it, and I'm sick of self-sabotaging good relationships with guys, and you should be too. You should be sick of standing in your own way, just like I am.
Maybe you feel as if you are too much, not enough, too flawed, or too undeserving of being loved. You are so wrong. You are deserving of so many great and wonderful things, you just need to let yourself have it. Maybe you do not understand your own self-worth and how wonderful you are. All those negative things you tell yourself are part of the reason you self-sabotage, and all those things are things that you would never say to a friend. You would never tell your friend that they are not enough or that they don't deserve to be loved. So, why is it okay for you to say those things to yourself?
You deserve a great big love, and you are not going to get that if you are always standing in your own way, always picking fights, and always letting maybe problems become right now problems. You are worthy of being loved, but please stop self-sabotaging yourself.
