Memories are stagnant, thoughts are faded, and our pandemic is silent. Regardless, we all seem to hold on to something. Whether this be our past, toxic relationships, or even our own thoughts that seem to control us. I was thinking these past couple of weeks of what makes one want to take hold and grip unto something that will never benefit but degrade our very being. We tend to hold on to anything that is left, the violence of having few strings attached to our soul.

Abusive relationships, and power struggles in consideration... why do so many continue to be in the pursuit of approval? The comfort of familiarity seems to take hold of these individuals and shake us until we are simply unconscious to the world around us. I realized I want to be uncomfortable, I want to grip hold of familiarity and, terrorize, claw, tyrannize, and persecute him myself. This false sense of security can be detrimental.

I am doing this because I love you.

I am the best you will ever have.

I am all you have, be grateful for me.

If you could do better, maybe you would not deserved what happened.

You are so lucky to have me.

These subtle phrases contain the annihilation of your self-worth. Many of us have been told these very phrases are the very ones that want to thank the messengers of these "kind" phrases that we thank help us rather than hurt us. We would rather hold on to the violence of these words than face the music and leave. Emotional abuse every day of your life is never the answer, and will not only deteriorate the emotional well-being of your soul but can eventually lead into the disintegration of physical well-being.

Stop Domestic Violence whether it be emotional, physical, sexual, or anything - just because they are family, a "close friend", or someone that is well-accepted within a community does not mean this behavior is okay and your acceptance of it is necessary. The narcissistic tactic to control another's life through subtle, harmful phrases should be enough incentive to leave the familiarity of that relationship. Comfort is not everything. Your soul is what is everything. I urge you to save it now before another takes it into their own hands.

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233

Emergency Contact: 911