Just imagine this: Mr. “Perfect” is standing right in front of you: He’s tall, athletic and handsome. He’s all smiles and seems to possess good mannerisms, which is hard to come by these days.

He also appears to be the responsible kind who loves his family and would also prioritise you. How could you not be smitten? After all, all you ever wanted is to attain love, validation and security from that very person who would gladly accept all of you, including your fears and insecurities.

There is this uncontrollable feeling deep inside, which screams out to you that he is definitely The One. You feel it in your heart, you feel it in your gut. This unexplainable feeling. It is so intense that you can feel yourself shaking a little.

He is walking towards you... or so you thought. You immediately sweep your messy bangs to one side, wanting to give him the best impression. The next moment, he walks past you without giving you the time of day like how total strangers should behave with paths never ever crossed.

A “perfect” modern love story and “love at first sight” kind of thing which most people would succumb to and can relate to, based on own personal experiences.

The ideology of the finding "The One" and various tips/methods to do so has been explored by many relationship experts who have their own unique perspectives as well as life experiences to back them up.

Love is a powerful word and should never be abused or tossed around carelessly, which is, unfortunately, the case these days. Claiming that you love someone just to exploit them is disgustingly despicable and also a kind of emotional manipulation, which must be stopped right here and now.

Stop saying that you love him because you needed help with your inexplicable emptiness or just wanted to feel complete.

Stop saying that you love him because you wanted something in return.

Stop saying that you love him because everyone else in your life has found the right one and you wanted to be a part of that spectrum.

Just stop because you’re just gonna crash and burn afterward and that wouldn’t be pretty.

Before actually finding "The One," everyone would have an initial mental blueprint of romantic love, which eventually evolves into a checklist to define what kind of qualities they desire in their partner.

Before you start on “What’s wrong with setting expectations and knowing what you want in your partner? Am I wrong about wanting this certain quality in my partner?”, I just would like to clarify something.

Desiring a particular quality from your partner is not wrong in any way. In fact, it could be that you fell for him because of that trait. I am talking about setting unrealistic or even irrelevant expectations for yourself and your partner, which could cause irreversible damage to your relationship.

The person whom you think is the one may not have mutual feelings, and of course, feel free to pursue it, however, it is also vital to cherish and consider tactfully the person in front of you all the while.

When you are obsessed with the idea of finding "The One," it may cause major self-conflict at times because you are constantly under the impression that there would always be someone better out there, which would jeopardize your current relationship and incur emotional stress for yourself and your partner.

You would feel extremely frustrated and dissatisfied with your relationship whenever he fails to meet a certain expectation. Disappointment comes right after and slowly, you feel indifference or even distaste towards him and the entire relationship.

Next, you would feel an unhealthy emotional attachment to that one person who you believe is "The One," but are you prepared for any form of disappointment which may occur in your next relationship?

Finally, you are together with him, whom you are absolutely certain is "The One." Everything is all blue skies and bed of roses until you realize that he may not be who you imagine him to be or once again, he isn’t fulfilling certain expectations just like your previous one.

So, what are you going to do now?

Ending the relationship seems like the most sensible option, but you are so convinced that he is "The One." You sacrificed everything else just to be with him: Mr. Nice Guy in your previous relationship, your time and effort and lastly, all the reasons you gave yourself to be with him.

You put all of your energy into convincing yourself that there would be a future with him that everything else doesn’t matter.

It is important to keep in mind that while you are desperately trying to find "The One," you are also keeping scores on your partner and with that, your current/future relationships will always be on the road of despair.

The worst misconception about love is your partner will never disappoint you no matter what, which is total nonsense.

Everybody, including your loved ones, will always disappoint you in one way or another - mostly unintentionally because I could not fathom hurting my partner’s feelings... even when we both have some disagreements.

Finding "The One" can be a mentally exhausting process because you are constantly evaluating every single partner based on your personalized "checklist" and dealing with your own self-denial at the same time.

One moment you are really pleased with your current relationship, the next moment you could be finding reasons to end it. And, the scariest outcome of all these back-and-forths is actually coming to the realization that you’re never in love with him instead, you’re just in love with your own ideology of love or you're simply incapable to give love properly.

Due to culprits like social media, it can lead to feelings of inadequacy or dissatisfaction in your relationship like you would feel that there is a need to do this and that to achieve #RelationshipGoals or #CoupleGoals.

Just face it: every couple would want to be the subject of envy and be the definition of #RelationshipGoals.

Hence, most would choose to portray the “ups” but never the “downs” of a relationship to others. The reality is, relationships are always bound to be more complicated than to be easily defined by a few posts on Instagram/Facebook because the fundamental basis of human beings is to avoid vulnerability in front of others.

Let go of your unrealistic expectations, have your own perspective and always avoid comparison. Don’t live off others’ fantasies, instead, create your own fantasy. Be open to learning together through multiple disappointments and understand that acceptance is key for every relationship to work.