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Jan 09, 2017

As a person who continues to write about loving myself and wanting to find myself, one would think I would know how to let negative people in my life go. But just like every other hopeless romantic, dreamer, and fixer I like to believe that these negative people in my life are not at all negative and I put on blinders.

I am the kind of person who wants to be able of help and I like to try to see the good in people. But sometimes the good in a person isn’t good enough. I have a very hard time seeing this and when I do it is usually after that second chance, or the I’m sorry’s are exchanged that I realize this. And there I am standing between the small amount of good and the negatives, trying to make a choice.

I would like to say that I am the person that drops the negative people from my life like it’s nothing, but honestly it is quite the opposite. I am the person who goes running back to the negative people because once upon a time they did this one thing that was good, and I tend to forget the negative and hurtful things they have done.

In the past I would do this over and over again. But I am done, and this is why.

Being the girl who goes running back when you know that a person doesn’t care if you came back or not isn’t fun. It hurts. You will try to convince yourself that they are in your life for a reason and they are good for you. But if that person can up and leave you like its nothing they are not good for you. They are very much the opposite of good for you.

You can leave too. You are not attached to a person and a single person does not make you whole, especially if they are negative. If you know that this person isn’t good for you, leave. It is as simple and as complicated as that. And I know that leaving sounds easy, but trust me I know that in reality it is the hardest thing to try and do. But if you read my articles and you ever want to take something to take something away for them, it should be this. You need to do this for yourself, and I promise as much as it may hurt, you will be much better off in the long run.

I refuse to let a person convince me that I need them in my life to function. I refuse to let a single individual control my happiness. That is never okay and it is not a good foundation for any type of relationship. There is so much better out there and so much more you can do. So do not let a person stop you from doing what you love, or let you stop loving yourself.

I am done doing all of this and being the person who lets the negative people stay. I am done making excuses for the people who hurt me. And I am forever done taking the blame for negative people.

I don’t want to try and make letting people go sound easy because I know it is not. I struggle with it and I would never wish it upon anyone. But if there are negative people surrounding you, please try to distance yourself or completely let them go. I promise that it is what is best and please do not try to convince yourself that it isn’t. You deserve much more than to be held down with the excess weight of negativity.

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The struggles of having an RBF are all too real

1. People asking if you're mad at them.

2. Those people who hand out flyers don't always try to stop you.

3. Creepy guys telling you to smile.

4. "I thought you were a bitch when I first met you."

5. People telling you you'd be "so much prettier if you smiled."

6. Doing your makeup and looking great, which somehow intensifies the bitch face.

7. Regularly explaining "it's just my face."

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That moment that someone you never looked twice at suddenly makes you do a double take out of no where.

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Because you don't have a crush, there's no reason to tell anyone about anything. Right?

But then they do something irresistible and you start to lose it.

Now accepting the fact you have a crush, you have to keep it under control.

Then there's the part where you tell your friends who will claim they called it.

They'll be excited and cheer you on. That's until they realize that your crush is all you'll be talking about.

Your obsession has become so bad, that your Facebook stalking is getting out of control.

But your friends will try and help move things along any way they can. That doesn't mean it will be any helpful though.

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You can't focus on anything because all your attention is on them and everything they do.

Anybody who comes near your crush is now an enemy, and you are willing to fight for your crush.

When you see them, you act like an idiot. Trying to hide your feelings may not be as discrete as you think.

Keeping your feelings inside will start to be harder and harder until you can't keep it inside anymore.

Who knows, maybe it will work out? Take a chance.

Everybody hurts sometimes.

May the odds be ever in your favor.

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