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Dealing with the Death of a Loved One

It's tough to say goodbye.

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Dealing with the Death of a Loved One
Shanon Rego

It's never easy to deal with the death of someone. My paternal grandad passed away when I was in the second grade. Obviously, I was pretty small and I vaguely remember how life was back then. I have these small flashbacks, photos and some stories my parents still tell me. I still remember every single detail of the funeral. I never really talked to anyone about how I felt after the funeral. Years later, I still reminisce about how I used to hold his finger and walk down the stairs, and how I would sit next to him and try to read the newspaper. But every now and then, I'd get these flashbacks of the funeral and it scared me.


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This January, literally days after I came back from India for my second semester, I received the news that my maternal grandad also passed away. I was walking near the library and I froze. I didn't know how to react. I didn't know who to call. I couldn't believe that only a few days before I hugged him and left for my flight. He was one man who always knew that I would work hard for my success. He would always sit in his chair, do his little exercise and stare out the window. I remember that back then when I was 4 or 5, he'd come back from work and bring me and my sister our favorite chocolates every single day.


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I refused to see any pictures of my grandfathers because I was afraid I would break down and lose my strength. I had to be strong for my folks at home. I didn't want them to stress about me as well. I don't know if that was the right thing to do, but I couldn't do it. A few months later, I felt that I needed to get hold of reality. The moment I saw those pictures, I started bawling. I couldn't believe that he wasn't there anymore. It took me days to get better. But I'm glad I did it. I was happy that I got to spend time with him before leaving. Furthermore, it wasn't easy writing this article. I've typed and discarded numerous drafts. I'd choke up each time I write the article. But then I realized that both my Papas would not like to see me like this. There are two things I learned from them: To stay strong in every situation and to always help people.

People get older. It's a fact and there's nothing we can do to change it. But, we could try and enjoy the moments we get to spend with them. My grandparents lived a very happy life. They were always optimistic about the future. They tackled any and every obstacle placed in front of them. They would always help anybody in need and I am proud to call them my grandfathers.

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