Dear Anyone,
Girl bumps into a boy in the hallway, realizing it was her best friend from the sixth grade. Since then, he's taken to girl's ex-bestie and so she sighs and walks away to chemistry class (pun intended). Sound familiar?
Don't get me wrong, I am a complete sucker for cheesy, predictable movies. The ones that take place in high school where the girl is trying to find herself and doesn't think she will ever fall in love. Where suddenly that boy has eyes for her for reasons unknown. The only problem here is... young girls (and boys) begin to watch these movies and it engrains this expectation for the day they get their first crush.
It would be sunshine and rainbows if John/Jane Doe kissed you in the middle of the football field after winning the big game. The rush of excitement knowing you've got the whole world right in front of you.
Remember, life is going to be what you make of it. Don't feel pressured by society to have a boyfriend/girlfriend by a certain age. You don't have to have your first kiss by freshman year. Life isn't going to fall in place like puzzle pieces.
You are the creator of that puzzle.
Girls, say f to expectations and ask that guy out, it could be one of the best decisions of your life. Boys, don't be shy to talk to her because she might feel the exact same way.
Movies are movies for a reason. They are what people would like to think life is like. That's the beauty of films, they are fictional.
Growing up I watched these movies and I became confused with my self-worth. Would I ever get something like that? Would someone ever love me? When? As I got older and matured I became stronger and I knew the thoughts I had then were a little foolish. The questions I had were things that would happen naturally in life, I couldn't plead and cry to the universe about such things. The universe knew, but it would not respond. I had to be patient.
Now I am 20-years-old. My entire life is still in front of me. I am almost done with college and I still question my self worth from time to time. That's OK. We wouldn't be humans if we didn't constantly question things in our existence. I surround myself with good people. I'm studying to further my education. I have a boyfriend who cares about me wholeheartedly, and even that feels surreal because as a kid these were the things I always asked myself about. Now I know I am deserving.
I am worth something.
So are you.
Chin up and keep on pushing kid.
Sincerely,
V.
