Welcome to Dear Dymin, a weekly advice column where I answer real questions from real people. I am definitely not a love guru or Cosmopolitan magazine, nor do I have any amazing tips to help you lose ten pounds in ten days. I do, however, answer phone calls from my friends after midnight and tell them not to go home with strangers. This can’t be any different, right? Enjoy!
Q: Dear Dymin,
I was just recently dumped, and I really thought this guy was “the one.” What do you suggest for someone who is hung up on a person who doesn’t love them back?
Hopelessly devoted.
A: Dear Hopelessly Devoted,
Luckily for you, I’ve had my heart broken quite a few times. I wish I could tell you that there is a quick and easy way to mend a broken heart, but it’s just not true. However, there are some ways to cope till time takes over and you forget all about that moron that curb-stomped your soul. Although moping around is normal for the first few days, I highly suggest getting up and getting out! Rally a few of your closest girlfriends and try something new! Take a cooking class or check out that trendy farmer’s market you’ve been hearing about. Not only will you forget about whatever his name is, but you might just meet someone new. Also, it’s important to remember that God has a plan. Sometimes our biggest failures and heart-shattering moments are just God’s way of turning us in the direction of something much, much better! So even though you might think that guy was “the one,” he might not be cut out for what’s about to happen next in your life! So wake up every day, not thinking about your past, but excited for what God has in store for your future!
Q: Dear Dymin,
I recently found myself searching for love on websites like Tinder. What advice can you give a twenty-something gal looking to find a good man without all that superficial stuff?
Signed, Tinderella
A: Dear Tinderella,
Tinder is so much fun! I don’t doubt that it’s possible to find love on these sites but the truth is, Tinder and apps similar are rather superficial. This might just be a typical case of kissing a few frogs before you find your prince. I suggest being very clear about your intentions and be honest about who you are! The ones who aren’t into it will take themselves out of the running for your heart, but the ones who are won’t mind putting forth the effort.
Q: Dear Dymin,
I used to be a big party girl living it up in college. Now here I am, an adult, seeking out the love of Jesus once again. How do I overcome my woes and find Christ?
Love, Jesus drank wine too
A: Dear Jesus drank wine too,
Aren’t we so fortunate to be loved by a forgiving God? Just writing this question and sending it into me means that you are seeking the Lord and that’s a great first step! It’s important you know that Jesus already loves you, A LOT, and striking up a relationship with God is easier than you think. Pray! Speak with God as often as you would like! Thank Him for the blessings He has bestowed upon you, tell him all about your day and ask him into your heart and your life! Read the Bible, (specifically Matthew 6:33 in this case) and you’ll start to see God everywhere you go! I’ll be praying for you!
Q: Dear Dymin,
What is an ideal first date spot and what’s the most romantic thing a man can do for a woman?
Please advise. MRG.
A: Dear MRG,
The “ideal” first date spot really varies depending on the woman you’re taking out. I think it’s very important to get a feel for what the she likes beforehand. Please don’t have a “go to” place for all your first dates. For example, don’t take a girl who prefers cheeseburgers over raw fish out to eat at the same sushi restaurant you took your last first date. As far as romance goes, that too varies. I am the kind of girl who really appreciates it when a guy just listens to me, but all girls are different. May I suggest readingThe 5 Love Languages?
Have your own questions for me? Email me at dyminhayesodyssey@gmail.com and your question could be featured in next weeks Dear Dymin!
