Ever since I was 6 years old, I’ve wanted to be a lawyer. My favorite show growing up was Law and Order. Instead of reading picture books like children my age, I was reading case files in my family library.
I always thought that growing up, my life would fall into place. I was going to stay with my high school sweetheart, go to college and do the long distance thing if applicable, finish undergrad, go to law school, then take the bar exam in New York, move there and get a job at a law firm in the city. Once all that was said and done, I would marry said high school boyfriend and have our children.
Then, like almost all high school relationships towards graduation, we broke up. I was devastated and felt like my life was no longer 100 percent in my control, but that was fine. I could still go to college, finish my undergrad, go to law school and meet someone along the way, right?
I mean, that was the plan anyway.
Although I still dream of being a lawyer and eventually the New York State Prosecutor like Jack McCoy from Law and Order, I discovered that college opened many alternative doors for me that have piqued my interest.
For example, I really love children, so much so that I want tons of my own once I get older. The thought of surrounding myself with them everyday as a teacher fills my heart with joy.
I also found that I have a fascination with the human brain and how it works. Since me and the people around me have suffered with things like mental illness, I have always been interested in learning about how things like this develop in the mind.
I also have this passion for the written word. Although I can channel that love in things like case files as a lawyer, I have always thought it would be cool to be a journalist. I’ve always wanted to go search for facts for my own story, interview people, then write and report my findings.
Lastly, I've always had a passion for dancing. I've been doing it since I was 4 years old. I’m not sure what I would want to do with it, but it’s a talent don’t want to see go to waste in my adult life.
There are so many things that I love to do, and I wish I could do them all at once. But the reality is, I can’t. I wonder if being a lawyer is even realistic for me anymore. Will I even get into law school? Is there even a market for prosecutors anymore? My mind has become a whirlwind of questions about my future recently, and I’ve come to accept that.
Recently, I met someone who goes to a college a few miles down from mine, and he too wants to become a lawyer, but is also not so sure. He's completely OK with that. He has tons of other passions, like playing for the pep band, filming things and helping students with their writing. He's been trying to get me to accept that not knowing exactly what I want to do with my life is OK, and it is slowly beginning to work.
I want students in college to know it's OK if you’re unsure about your future. Not everything will work out the way you want it to. I’ve come to realize that it’s unhealthy to try to live your life under a strict plan.
College is a place where you can explore your passions and eventually decide what you want to do. There is no pressure. There’s a reason why you can commit to a college undeclared, and why you can change your major as many times as you want.