Dear Boys Everywhere,
I have a few questions for you... First of all, what the heck?
Okay, let me elaborate a little bit. I'm just looking for some clarification. I, as well as pretty much every other girl, can't read your minds. (Trust me, I've tried.) I'm awkward enough as it is, but trying to figure out how to play this dating game makes me even worse, kind of like a fish out of water. But seriously, please shed some light for me.
Do you want me to make the first move?
I'm sure plenty of ladies wonder the same thing. I've had my fair share of crushes and love interests, but I'm convinced that a majority of them didn't get anywhere due to a lack of initiative. Please note: I am a huge advocate for going after what you want, but I'm never 100% sure if it's the right thing to do or the right move to make.
Is double-texting okay?
I've never been the person that sees anything wrong with double texts. Considering the fact that probably 90% of the phone-owning population has his or her phone on them for nearly every waking hour, getting in contact with them shouldn't be difficult; double-texting is a solution (at least in my mind). But I seriously wonder, do you think it's annoying/unnecessary?
How much do you actually care about my appearance?
I'm not saying that we decide how to dress or how to do our makeup because we want your approval, it's actually the total opposite. However, I am genuinely curious about how much a girl's appearance factors into your initial interest. How do I ask a boy I like if he likes short, long-haired, dark-colored-big-eyed girls without looking like a fool?
Is honesty really the best policy?
Let's say my awkwardness gets me all the way to the finish line and somehow score myself some time with a cute boy. I'll have high expectations for that first date (as I'm sure he will, too), but what if my expectations aren't totally met? I accept that I'm not perfect and that I can be a little disappointing, but I believe that, if that's the case, he should just tell me how he feels instead of wasting each other's time. Do guys feel this way, too?
I have about a billion other questions – Am I being too pushy? Do you need to DTR (define the relationship) with every girl you meet? Can I pay for a date without bruising your ego? – but I'll hold off for now. I just think that some of my (lack of) success can be attributed to having no clue about what guys like.
And I thought girls were supposed to be the complicated ones.
Sincerely,
A Clueless Girl
