Throughout the course of your life, you'll inevitably encounter people that you simply dislike. Whether it's at school, work or in your organization, annoying people are everywhere to be found, and the fact of the matter is that you have to know how to deal with them too. This might seem like a frustrating task at first glance, but there are steps that you can take to create and sustain interaction with these kinds of people without unnecessary conflict or tension. The first, most important thing that you must understand and accept is that there are very few things that you are actually in control of. You cannot control how other people feel, think or act. How people respond and react is just beyond your power. In dealing with people you dislike, the goal is for them to act in ways that are favorable to you, and the only way you can do this is by controlling what you feel, think and say. You really are the only person that can alter your state of being, your reactions and your approach to others. When we give that power to negative people, we subject ourselves to unhappiness and become easily affected by how they treat us. So, when you encounter someone that makes you instantly frustrated, become aware of how you feel in that moment. How is your body responding? What are your thoughts and feelings upon seeing them? Your body language, thoughts and emotions in response to a person are the only things that you are responsible for, so remember to make sure that you don't give others the power to alter your state in a negative way. Instead, focus on easing the tension you harbor towards an annoying individual by relaxing, breathing and thinking about the ways in which you can change to transform your perception of the situation. For example, try to become more understanding of the fact that human beings are complex creatures and show only a small part of themselves in each social context. Instead of making assumptions about them from a judgmental position, consider their behavior compassionately. Become more open-minded and express curiosity in changing your approach to deal with people that appear difficult to get along with.