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Mothers Can Be Deadbeats Too

Not all fathers are deadbeats, sometimes it is the other way around.

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Mothers Can Be Deadbeats Too
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You hear about deadbeat fathers often on everything from social media to the news, but you never hear about deadbeat mothers. People often forget that a mother is just as capable of mistreating, abusing, and neglecting her children as a father. We think that mothers are not capable of being unfit, because they gave birth to their children and are supposed to love their children more than anything, but this isn't always the case. Sometimes mothers can be deadbeats too.

I am friends with many mothers of all ages on social media. I have noticed that it is not just the teen moms who are capable of being unfit. Although, most people think that it would be a teen that could not take care of her children, I have seen more adults abandon their kids than any other age group. Mothers are supposed to make the world go round, I have no idea where I would be if I didn't have my mom. But some people do not have that luxury.

Men are not less of a person in the legal system. With that being said, this means that just because you are a child's mother does not mean that you have all rights to that child. A father can just as easily take the mother to court as she can. Children are not always better off with their mother. I have seen mother's completely abandon their children. Literally run away from their parental responsibilities. I have never seen a man do this. I have seen women do drugs while pregnant, drink in front of their babies, and much more. Most of the DSS cases on the news nowadays are mothers that were neglecting their kids. I am not saying that all dads are great and all mothers are scum by any means, but I am tired of seeing moms say that the father does not have any rights to their child when they have just as many. If you are one of these mothers, let me tell you, your "baby daddy" can take you to court just as fast as you could take him. All a man needs is a DNA test, and then you will have to settle for joint custody.

If a man is stepping up and trying to provide for his kids, do not call him a "deadbeat" or "just a sperm donor." He is the father of your child. You laid down to make that baby, and you can raise the baby together too. It is not that hard to let a man take responsibility. He wants to see his kid? Let him see it. You are not entitled to special rights just because you are the mother. You do not have the right to kick someone out of your child's life. How would you explain to that child that you are the reason "daddy" never comes to visit? Or would you lie and say that it was the father's fault and make your child hate their own dad. Half of your child's DNA comes from their father.

I am so tired of the lies social media is telling us. Not all mothers are wonderful and not all fathers are horrible. Sometimes it is the other way around. In the end, all that matters is that the child is loved. Whether it be just the mother, just the father, both, or two of the same. As long as we are loving our children and doing our best to raise them right, it will all come together in the end.

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