Either you're the boy who has met her or you are her. She is the daughter of a single mom. Her life is completely different from anyone else's, in more ways than one. She was brought up differently, due to her family dynamic. One thing that is highly affected by her upbringing is her love life. It's not that she doesn't know how to love, she just goes about it in an odd way that not �many boys understand.
1. She is fiercely independent.
She was raised by her mother only. Single moms rarely seek any help; they do it all on their own. They uphold both the role of a man and a woman for their children. She has learned the value of herself and how to do absolutely everything alone. She doesn't need any help and she won't ask for it. It will be beyond frustrating for you, but ask her. She'll enjoy the offer and occasionally, she'll want to receive a helping hand.
2. You will not be her first priority.
She loves you,� if she's with you; but she loves her family more. Within her dynamic and struggles, she grew super close to her siblings and mother. Girls with single moms have definitely been taught that, no matter what, they will always have their family as their biggest support system. She's seen her mom date and knows that men will come and go, whenever they please. Men are temporary to her, but her family is permanent. That doesn't mean that she doesn't see a future with you, it just means she's holding onto something more concrete.
3. She won't beg you to stay.
Regardless of if her dad passed away or was never involved, it's still the general idea of a man,� who was biologically made to love and stay with her, left. She felt heartbreak, way before any other boy could give it to her. She learned early on that there is no use in making hopeless pleas for men to stay. Also, her mom probably taught her through experience that begging isn't worth it. Therefore, don't expect her to be the one who pleads with you, when you are on your stupid shit. She'll hold her head high and walk away
4. She's beyond strong and selfless.
Not only has she had examples from her mom, but she herself has had to be sturdy and altruistic in countless situations. She has comforted her mom, when she had no one else to run to. She has had to set aside things she wanted to do to take care of her siblings, while her mom had "me time." More than likely, she was the total backbone to the family. She took on the role of a father to her siblings and a husband to her mother.
5. She doesn't know affection.
She has never had the picture perfect example. She isn't used to your forehead kisses and midnight cuddles. She won't be overly affectionate until she feels she can trust you. She doesn't express everything like other girls do. It's foreign to her and her guard is up, which won't help. She'll be the over thinker, the tough one, and the crazy one. But, once you prove yourself to her, she'll be your favorite.
6. But...She craves "IT!"
Daddy issues? Maybe, but not in the sexual way. She wants comfort and to feel protected. Not that her mom didn't do a damn good job, but she wants to feel a guy's strong arms and smell his cologne as he embraces her and tells her she's beautiful. Sometimes, she just wants to be a woman for once. She wants to feel like someone else can help her carry the weight on her shoulders, feel feminine, and let go for a little bit. Help her--be patient and give her security.
7. Pictures, pictures, and more pictures!
She's the one with her phone always in her hand, playing with her camera or snapchat. She's constantly taking photos, because she never wants to lose anyone or anything, in a sense. She gets that people and moments aren't promised and cherishes all her memories,� no matter who they're with or when they're from. Don't be surprised, if she is still holding onto a video of someone that left her life long ago. She doesn't want that person back, but she appreciates what they gave her and wants to remember how he/she affected her life.
8. She laughs way more than she cries.
She understands more than anyone else that bad things can happen to good people. She knows there is nothing she can do to change a situation or fate. She has learned to live life to the fullest and embrace every moment, whether it is good or bad. Therefore, whether she is mad or happy, she will continue to smile and giggle. She will instill this optimism in you. Remember, although she doesn't express her feelings like everyone else, she does have emotions. Don't treat her like a robot. Sometimes, she needs that occasional hug or kiss to make her feel better.
9. She is totally capable of love.
Just because she didn't have an example, doesn't mean she's completely clueless. She's just a bit more wary than others. She has given both her mother and siblings unconditional love, and that's what she'll give to you. However, it is something you will have to work for.
10. She is the best love you will ever experience.
This is the girl that is worth it. She won't waste your time or be unfaithful, for she knows what that can do. She won't be quiet or soft, she will always be 100 percent upfront and honest at all times. She is the one who is going to ride with you through anything, as long as you give her the respect she demands. In return, she will give you love, lessons, and a HUGE friendship that will never go away. She will be there for you always. She understands that love and people are precious and she will fight for everything she believes in, including you.
If you are still reading, I want you to know that I understand this more than anyone. I myself am a daughter of a single mom. This is the life for me and many other girls. We have figured out love, among many other things, on our own. From situations and experience from our moms, we have become strong, independent, and beyond fierce. If you are interested, know that there is no middle ground with us. You are either in it or not. We don't let our guard down easily, and it will be a lot of work. But, when we do love, we love with all of our hearts.
