Last Thursday I left for my vacation to Chicago, this was my first vacation by myself in 10 years. I am married and have 3 boys ages 9, 5, and 16 months, and being a stay at home mom can be tiring and just getting out for a few hours is sometimes not enough.

And this goes for stay at home dads as well, everyone needs a break and needs a vacation from kids and spouses, and it is very healthy for a relationship because you get to miss your partner. And the parent who is not the stay at home parent gets to see what your day is really like and how hard it can really be.

I left Thursday afternoon and came back Monday morning, it was just a nice long weekend. But it was great I got to hang out with family, got to sleep without a kid kicking me and got to go places without kids, and it felt great. Don't get me wrong I missed my kids and husband, but it was a great getaway to refresh and renew myself.

Jessica Christian

We had some beautiful none scorching hot days, It was great weather to just relax and be around other adults that you can have a conversation with, read a book without being interrupted a million times by your kids.

Jessica Christian

Being a parent can get stressful for you and your partner, and getaways and date nights are needed, I have been married almost 10 years, and I have learned that no matter how long you are married alone time and date nights are needed.

There are so many people who think once they get married they don't need to date their spouse anymore, I think that is a selfish way of thinking, your partner wants to feel special and wanted and getting away from the kids for just a few hours and spending time with each other can be a great feeling.

My little vacation made me miss my husband, and I couldn't wait to come home and see him, and I know life can get busy with work and kids, but making time for each other and yourself will help you be less stressed and keep your relationship spicy.

Just because your a stay at home parent doesn't mean you just have to stay home, there are so many things you can do and just tell your partner that you need time to yourself and set a day just for you. And taking a momcation or dadcation is a great way to renew yourself.

So to every mom and dad out there, from my own experience, you have to take care of each other and yourself, everyone has needs. And try spicing things up even if you just stay home, there are so many things you can do to make your relationship hot again just like it was when you first started dating.

So take time for each other and yourself you will feel much better if you do.