This one goes out to the awkward people like myself. I have this problem where I have no problem talking to every single stranger I come across, but the second someone I find attractive talks to me, I am at a loss for words.
For most of us, the way to date while being awkward is to not date at all. The fear of initiating conversation keeps us from even starting something real. It is a lovely cycle of staring at a person from afar and then glancing away when the notice. Unless the point of interest makes a move first, it could go on literally forever. We can't help it.
Not only is dating hard for us awkward people, but so is the simple part of life of finding someone attractive. WE JUST CAN NOT HIDE IT. My friends do not even have to ask if I find someone attractive, they just have to see me interact with them. For being a VERY social person, it is rare to see me stumble over my words or simply have little to say ( also very rare). When I do this, it is my awkward way of showing attraction ( How cute right?!)
Also, being so awkward, it is easy for us to overthink EVERYTHING. Did that thing I said last week make me seem too awkward to date? Should I text first or just fall off of the face of the Earth? These are just a few of our every day thoughts in the dating world.
It is so strange for me to watch others have dating come so naturally to them. It is literal magic to me. So you are really just going to go over there and just strike up a conversation without at least an hour of staring and planning, huh? Good for you...must be nice!
Watching the cutesy romantic movies give us hopes that the awkward, shy girl can find love. The right person will come along and break us out of our shells, right? Wrong. I am convinced I will be this awkward even after being married for ten years. I will definitely be one of those people who text their husband five years into their marriage and ask, "So, are you sure you like me?"
Maybe the idea is to find a fellow awkward person to settle down with? Maybe the two awkward personalities will cancel each other out? I do not have these kind of answers... obviously.
