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Dating- When Dating Isn't In Style

I know it's not our parent's decades anymore, but it might be fun to pretend it is.

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Dating- When Dating Isn't In Style

Dating isn't what it used to be. It's not picking her up at seven with flowers in hand or waiting at the front door to meet her father. It's not going out dancing, to see a movie, or even to dinner anymore. Dating has completely changed, in my opinion, for the worst.

Years ago, it was okay to date a few people casually. Go to dinner, see a movie, or bowling with a different person each week. It was what people did, they got to know a bunch of different people and then when they were ready and knew one person the best they asked to go steady. Going steady is where the exclusivity of it all came into play. Call me old fashioned but I really like that. Today if you're "talking" to someone, which is equivalent to getting to know someone, you are expected to not get to know anyone else. Honestly, I think that is kind of absurd. I am supposed to put all my eggs in one basket right out of the gate?

Dates today aren't what they used to be either. Honestly, the last real date I went on was my junior prom. I'm a sophomore in college now. What men today call taking me on a date is coming over, watching Netflix, and trying to get into my panties. No, girls and boys, I will not jump onto the "Netflix and chill" bandwagon. That is not me. That is not who I am.

Today's society is so obsessed with hooks ups, the "he said she said", and who is sleeping with who that we forget what we actually set out to do. Right now, I'm focusing mostly on myself. I'm in school, I'm here for an education. I'm trying to be successful. I'm building up my resume. I want you to turn your head when you hear about my success. I want to impress and inspire people to do what they want. A boyfriend is the last thing on my mind.

However, dating shouldn't be so stressful that it takes away from my potential success. Dating should be fun and easy. It should be light weight-- take me to dinner, not to the altar. Honestly, I would even be willing to go halfsies on a date, too. It doesn't have to be expensive. A walk around the city could even suffice. Maybe I'm old school, but a date doesn't have to lead to a relationship.

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