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What To Expect When Dating An Over-thinker

"There is nothing in this world that can trouble you as much as your own thoughts."

Toni Thomas

Mar 20, 2017

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What To Expect When Dating An Over-thinker

Over-thinking is poison and what-if's can literally start to run your life. Now we all over-think some aspects of our lives, whether it be regrets, self-worth, or certain decisions and they tend to consume us. There are many struggles that come with being an over-thinker, like struggling to find meaning in everything on a daily basis. Or trying to sleep. There is nothing to distract our racing minds when laying in the dark silence with no distractions. But the absolute worst thing about being an over-thinker is dating. Here are a few things to know about dating a girl who is an over-thinker.

1. Situations will be replayed.

Everything you say and do will be played in her head over and over again, especially if it's something that hurt her feelings. The things you say will be what keeps her up at night replaying the conversation in her head.

2. She needs clarification.

If she is someone you have been dealing with for a while but the two of you don't have a title she will find herself questioning what the two of you are. She has probably asked once or twice if she is just sex to you because in her head that's all she thinks she is. You have to let her know that she is way more to you than what is between her legs. If in fact, all she is is sex to you, then be up front and honest with her.

3. We need you to say what you mean and mean what you say.

Don't lie and don't beat around the bush. To keep her from overthinking tell her what's on your mind, how you feel and especially how you feel about her.

4. Her brain will never rest.

She will constantly over analyze everything when it comes to her beau. She notices the way you look at her, your behavior and attitude towards her. If there is something on your mind she will notice, if you're acting different she will know and if you touch her slightly different than you usually do she will notice and most likely think she has done something wrong.

5. We won't tell you exactly how we feel.

We overthink so we tend to not share our feelings because we think you aren't interested or don't care how we feel.

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What To Expect When Dating An Over-thinker

"There is nothing in this world that can trouble you as much as your own thoughts."

1. Situations will be replayed.

2. She needs clarification.

3. We need you to say what you mean and mean what you say.

4. Her brain will never rest.

5. We won't tell you exactly how we feel.

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All names should be "unisex names."

1. Communicating via email can be awkward.

2. Appointments usually accompany weird looks.

3. Introducing yourself to someone is never without a hitch.

4. You’ve probably thought about changing your name.

5. You’re often asked why you have the name you do.

6. You get excited when you meet someone of your gender with your name.

7. You feel awkward when you meet someone of the opposite gender with your name.

8. You’ve had someone say to you, “I knew a [your name], but they were [your opposite gender].”

9. You’ve heard a bad joke/pick-up line or two about your name before.

10. People are surprised when they see you.

11. You’re extra sensitive to other unique or unisex names.

12. You’ve fought with your parents about it.

13. All things considered, you’re happy your name makes you unique.

You know that all of these things apply to you. You'll just never tell.

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1. At least I can't lose you in a crowd!

2. Oh my goodness your skin is like glow-in-the-dark.

3. Can't you just get fake tan?

4. Do you tan or just burn?

5. Your kids are going to look like Casper the Friendly Ghost!

6. *holds arm against your arm* Look how much darker I am compared to you!

7. *holds pale arm against another pale arm* Aw, at least you're darker than her!

8. I laid out by the pool almost every day over break!

9. I haven't used sunscreen since I was, like, five.

10. *adjusts selfie lighting to their face* Oops, where'd you go??

11. *after working out* Your face is SO red!

12. *wears white* Look! You're all one color!

13. You need to get some sun.

14. Aren't you excited for summer?

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3. That anxiety that takes over before every performance:

4. Taking a million 0 credit classes:

5. When there's a paper due the next day, but you have to attend yet another concert in order to pass a 0 credit class:

6. When your friends try to encourage you after a performance, even though you are criticizing everything in your mind:

7. Knowing that there's always that one professor during juries:

8. The oh-so-attractive band/choir uniforms:

9. Realizing that a college campus is maybe not the best atmosphere to finish your latest composition:

10. Hearing "Oh, you sing opera? I LOVE Phantom of the Opera!" for the hundredth time:

11. When people think finals week is a breeze for you.

12. When you're drowning in the stress that comes with 18+ credits (and not to mention all those 0 credit classes) and people ask you how you are:

13. When it all comes down to it, though, you know that at the end of the day, music is your passion:

Because you need it in your life.

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7. holds pale arm against another pale arm Aw, at least you're darker than her!

10. adjusts selfie lighting to their face Oops, where'd you go??

11. after working out Your face is SO red!

12. wears white Look! You're all one color!