If you are single, you already know what I'm talking about – blindly fumbling around the imaginary line between "just friends" and "just friends who occasionally make out and you better not have any other making out friends, but remember we're not together so don't claim me – friends." It's stupid. An unwanted headache.
Whatever happened to the days where a boy asked you out on a date and actually took you somewhere? And not just to his dirty apartment to, "watch a movie?"
They seem to be long gone; which honestly is really disheartening. I get that.
it's frustrating. I understand it makes you not want to try again, and shut everyone out. Here's what I don't get – I don't get how people just give in to that feeling.
Demand better for yourself! Wait for the guy that really wants to get to know you – not just what you've got under your jeans.
If a guy 'asks you to hang out' with no specific perimeters, don't go. I don't care how cute he is or how nice his car is. Don't go. If he really wants to see you or spend time with you, he'll call you again and ask you out for real.
The right person is out there for you (at least that's what they tell me). It's hard, especially if you're feeling lonely or vulnerable, but don't give in. If all your 'relationships' don't work out, or if something isn't adding up, then it's time to switch up the approach.
Why settle for mediocre dates that leave you feeling exasperated and upset when you can hold out for a guy that'll sweep you off your feet?
One night, I was at the bar and told I was too self-confident; I was too beautiful, and no 'decent' guy would ever approach me 'because it would be hard to talk to me'. I think I fell off my stool I laughed so hard. Is that really a thing?
I can respect the fear of rejection. No one likes to be rejected. However, I can't respect the fear of trying. There's that old saying I always find myself thinking about, "you miss 100% of the shots that you don't take."
As dumb and cliche as it is, it's not a lie – and it goes both ways. If you just give up on dating because one shitty guy ruined it for everyone, then where will you be? Lonely and sad, eating wine flavored ice cream, looking at your wedding board on Pinterest, wondering when Mr. Right is going to fall into your lap (spoiler alert, he isn't –unfortunately).
So, if the kind of dorky, funny guy from work asks you out – even if he's not your normal type – don't say no right away. If he wants to take you to dinner and he makes you laugh, then why not?
Does going on the 5th bad date in a row suck? Yes.
Does being the friend that goes on all the dates get old sometimes? Yes.
Is it embarrassing to tell people that this guy didn't work out either? Yes, again!
You know what will be worth it, though? Finding the right person.
I'm not saying you should fall in love with everyone who looks at you or jump into a relationship with the first guy you see, but just give people a chance. Don't write off every guy because one of them ruined it for you.
On the other hand, don't be willing give yourself up to someone who doesn't really care or have the same values as you. Open yourself up to new people and opportunities. Don't settle for less than you deserve.
You never know who you're going to meet.
