Dating To Not Be Single | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post
Relationships

Dating To Not Be Single

The pressure behind dating and being in a relationship.

25
Dating To Not Be Single
Personal

Dating (v.) : Of a couple, to be in the early stages of a relationship where they go out on dates to find out what each other is like, as a prelude to actually being fully fledged couple. – Urban Dictionary

Finding the perfect someone is usually the main conversation during girls night out. Going on a first date is probably the most awkward thing because you are nervous about meeting a stranger, nervous you are going to embarrass yourself, and nervous that maybe the spark won’t be there. Dating can be hard because you have to weave through the bad to get to the good. Recently I've found myself swiping left or swiping right in hopes of finding the prince charming that I have been dreaming about ever since I was little. So far I have weaved through the bad hoping maybe soon I will get to the good.

This whole dating thing is very new to me, so I am taking it one awkward date at a time. Trying to find “the one” has got me thinking why do I try so hard to impress someone that I barely know and why am I so fascinated on having that special someone in my life? I may know the answer to my own question. Every day I see couples, my friends are either married or have their boyfriend or girlfriend and I look at them and think, "I want that". I want my person to walk through life with to share that funny moment, sad moment, or special moment with. As I look closer at the same couples I realize that, yes they are cute and I want to hold hands with that special guy (I really do), but it takes work. It’s not that easy to go on the very first date and say, "Yes, he is the one! No more awkward first dates."

Easy is swiping left or right, no or yes, easy is not going on that date and opening yourself up to a stranger. Yes, I want that person I can share any and everything with, but it’s not the end of the world if I don’t right now. Sometimes I think there is this pressure around your peers and society to have a boyfriend or girlfriend in your life so you can get married and have the children and be that happy family. Especially being a female, I have to worry about that ticking time clock of finding a man and having babies before I "get too old".

With that being said, I found myself putting pressure on the first date to make sure it goes perfect so the second date will happen. I end up losing my personality in the date because, of course, I don’t want to come off as 'being too much'. If I don’t find that special someone now at the age of 22 I feel like having a family one day will never happen because of that ticking clock. I believe the pressure of finding and having the one will always be there, whether from family members, friends, or just society in general; however, I don’t need to put that pressure on myself. I need to enjoy this crazy thing we call life while being single or being with a special someone just as long as I'm making the most out of my life and doing the things I want to not because there’s pressure behind it.

Dating (v.) : Entertaining, Interesting, Frustrating, Confusing, and most of all, the worst and best thing that can happen. – Single Girl

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Adulting

18 Things I Want To Do Now That I'm 18

I'm technically an adult, so I'm legally required to live a little, right?

2360
Happy Birthday Cake

For the entirety of my high school career, I was always seen as the goody-two-shoes. I never got in trouble with a teacher, I kept stellar grades, and when I wasn't doing extracurricular activities, I was at home studying. Even when I did go out, it was usually with a bunch of fellow band geeks. The night would end before 11:00 PM and the only controversial activity would be a fight based on who unfairly won a round of Apples-to-Apples when someone else clearly had a better card (I promise I'm not still holding a grudge).

Now that I'm officially an adult, I want to pursue some new things. I want to experience life in a way that I never allowed myself to do prior to entering college. These are the years that I'm supposed to embark on a journey of self-discovery, so what better way to do that than to create a bucket list?

Keep Reading...Show less
Featured

10 Life Lessons from Christmas Classics

The holiday classics that shaped my life

1418
10 Life Lessons from Christmas Classics
Flickr

The holiday season is full of stress, debt, and forced conversation. While we rush through the month of December, it's important to take a step back and enjoy the moments before they're gone. Most families love to watch Christmas movies, but these beloved films provide more than entertainment. Here are 10 life lessons that I've learned from the holiday classics we watch every year.

Keep Reading...Show less
Featured

15 Mind-Bending Riddles

Hopefully they will make you laugh.

200665
 Ilistrated image of the planet and images of questions
StableDiffusion

I've been super busy lately with school work, studying, etc. Besides the fact that I do nothing but AP chemistry and AP economics, I constantly think of stupid questions that are almost impossible to answer. So, maybe you could answer them for me, and if not then we can both wonder what the answers to these 15 questions could be.

Keep Reading...Show less
Entertainment

Most Epic Aurora Borealis Photos: October 2024

As if May wasn't enough, a truly spectacular Northern Lights show lit up the sky on Oct. 10, 2024

21196
stunning aurora borealis display over a forest of trees and lake
StableDiffusion

From sea to shining sea, the United States was uniquely positioned for an incredible Aurora Borealis display on Thursday, Oct. 10, 2024, going into Friday, Oct. 11.

It was the second time this year after an historic geomagnetic storm in May 2024. Those Northern Lights were visible in Europe and North America, just like this latest rendition.

Keep Reading...Show less
 silhouette of a woman on the beach at sunrise
StableDiffusion

Content warning: This article contains descriptions of suicide/suicidal thoughts.

When you are feeling down, please know that there are many reasons to keep living.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments