First off, I learned that maturity is key when you're in a relationship with someone who has a different political view than you, or not.
I know what you're thinking from the title: Why would I ever date a republican? Wait, maybe I should be much more specific: A Trump supporter. When I first met this guy, I was dumbstruck in love. He was intelligent. He was handsome. He was tall. He had this edge that I liked, and most of all he was sweet. He was very sweet to me. Our "relationship" became long distance due to me being in college.
But, despite the distance, it never felt like I wasn't away. We were on the phone 24/7 and we were always talking to each other. He became my best friend, and I felt super comfortable with him. However, I didn't feel comfortable talking to him about politics.
You see--- when it came to politics... I try my very best to stray from it. I was starting to understand that I lived in a world where people were going to have views and ideas that were different than mine. I respected that, as long as that opposing person respected my views.
The first time I realized that this guy was a Trump supporter was when he expressed that he thought the Black Lives Matter movement was stupid. I felt the anger stir in me because really, what made it stupid? I felt as if he had used the word counteractive maybe I wouldn't have gotten so angry but I did. I couldn't understand why he thought they were stupid, and he began to express how he didn't feel as if BLM movement was doing any good, except causing a segregation once again. This guy felt as if black people were already equal in today's modern time, and that if we continued to victimize ourself then indeed yes, we'd become victims. He also said that the BLM movement was violent.
Red flag.
That should've been a red flag to turn around and say, I'm sorry but this guy was mesmerizing. Maybe his views were a little off, and I had came to the decision that maybe I should have given him a chance. That maybe I can get him to understand my views and see where I was coming from. I was obviously a big ole fool.
He never understood where I was coming from, but he treated me well. He treated me so good, that I often asked myself, "How did a sweet guy like this support a dick like Trump?" The world may never know. It wasn't like I supported Hillary. I didn't like her too, but it just seemed somewhat logical to vote for someone with a political background and didn't say offensive things.
I tried to be open minded. I tried to dance around the situation. I tried to pretend that the guy who I thought might work out did not see my issues as a Black person minimal. But, the truth was already out there. And I told myself, from now on, I'll avoid all conversations about politics to save each other some heartache! I just did not want to view him in a negative light!
I constantly asked him why was he talking to a black girl? He said that he didn't view me as a black girl but as just a girl. And that was sweet and all. That's the way I'd like to be viewed, just as a girl, but to me it felt like he was trying to ignore the issues of race that's been going on. He really didn't feel like racism was strong in our country.
WAIT. I know---but I decided to not be 'uptight and respect' his views. A few days ago we had a really heated debate that ended super bad. I think that he had egged me on knowing that I'd get upset, and I fell for it. We started being offensive to each other. He told me BLM was a hate group. I told him that Trump supporters thought with their pea brains. I even got a bit raunchy and said that the way Trump supporters acted you would think that Trump was personally giving each and every last one of them the BEST oral sex of their lives. I had lost it. I had told him it disgusted me that he thought Trump was so amazing. It wasn't like Hillary was amazing, but the way each and every last Republican idolized Trump as if he was the savior the United Stated needed. It was disturbing.
I really liked this guy. I really thought that maybe it would work despite our opposing view. But, realistically I should've known that if someone doesn't respect or understand the issues that your community face then they won't exactly understand you. That everything you say or do for your community they'd see YOU as a joke. I didn't want to be his joke anymore. I was torn because really despite all his Republican shit this guy was a sweet heart. I'm talking about the sweetest guy I'VE ever spoken too in my life. He was so good to me that, all those pros, had trumped (haha) that one con.
Long story short. The next morning I woke up to him telling me that he doesn't want to talk to me anymore because I was a bitch, and because I was insensitive. I guess I was. At first, I was sad that he had broken things off. But then I realized that it was for the better. And that deep down inside I knew that things wouldn't had worked. I needed to stop being delusional, and realize that you CAN'T force your views onto someone.
If he ever read this article, he'd probably be fuming. But, that's the least of my worries, because maybe he could find a girl who wanted to suck the skin off of Trump. They'll wear cute little matching Make America Great Again shirts, and have wild sex to Trump speeches.
Because lord knows, I'll never date a republican again.
P.S.: And if you are reading this, you can't want to date outside your race and not try to understand your partners views. I hate to say it this way, but we're from two different worlds. And we both may be living as a working class citizen, there are some differences. It does not make you weak to understand and respect.
