I'm not one for sappy posts. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate the occasional "Why Your Mom Is The Best Person In The World" or "Why You Love/Hate Your Best Friend" but that's usually about it. When I see articles on relationships I usually want to--how to put it nicely, oh yes--vomit. Reading about how the perfect guy is out there, you just have to wait for him, doesn't really appeal to me. Especially when it includes a line about being "an independent woman" like they always do.
But of course, because I spend too much time on social media, I click on the sappy articles anyways. Which is why I know what Justin Bieber song I would be as well as why "Chivalry Isn't Dead" and how to "Find A Guy Who Will Open The Door For You." I even click on the ones that sound like click bait but will have a surprise cute ending, like Date Someone Who Treats You Like Shit. So don't blame me for this sappy article; blame the previously mentioned article that didn't end with a justifying reason behind telling the world to date someone who treats them like shit.
Recommended for you
I thought it went without saying but I guess it needs to be put into words: Don't date someone who treats you like shit.
That's the moral of at least one episode of any good family show. Girl dates bad boy, bad boy breaks girl's heart, parent and/or best friend gives inspirational speech, girl ends up with nice guy who's always been in love with her.
There you go. You've learned the lesson without having to make the mistake. Which is great because it's just another reason why you do not need to personally be treated like shit to realize how you should be treated.
You don't need to feel sadness to realize that you like being happy. You don't need to starve to appreciate food. You don't need to be treated badly to know that you should be treated well.
So if you are still unsure of what you deserve or maybe you are waiting for some sign, here's your sign:You deserve someone who treats you well.
You deserve the world. With the exception of murderers and puppy kickers, everyone deserves to be treated well.
You deserve someone who treats you in a way that never makes you question where you stand.
You deserve someone who wants to get to know your family because they mean the world to you.
You deserve someone who listens and respects what you have to say even when you know you are making no sense.
You deserve someone who always and I mean even if you're "keeping it casual," gives a shit about you.
Figuring out what you want doesn't mean make a list of requirements including, must have a castle and shower me with gifts. Just know that you deserve.
Do you need to be ignored to know that you rather be getting a text back? Do you need to be used by someone to know you don't want to be used? Do you need to be with someone who doesn't care about your needs, wants, ambitions or thoughts to know that you want someone who cares about all of those things?
If you said yes to any of the above, don't date someone who treats you like shit; Date yourself. Find out what you want. Find out who you are. Maybe that even includes not stressing out about relationships at all. Maybe that includes worrying more about yourself than anything else.
Because your life isn't a Nicholas Sparks' book. You're not a damsel in distress. You're not broken. And you don't need to be broken to have your happy ending. Don't waste your time in an unhealthy relationship because you think it will teach you how you should be treated. Skip the heartache and hear me when I say, you deserve to be treated like the amazing person you are.
...Unless you are a puppy kicker. Then ignore all of that.
