Kids of divorced parents are a force to be reckoned with. We see that love doesn't always work out the first time. We have a more realistic view of what love life can end up like. I personally, like to put on my rose-colored glasses and pretend that I'm going to have a fairytale ending but, I know there is a high chance that it won't happen. We see what mistakes can do and that yes, people can forgive but sometimes they can't forget. We see that sometimes mistakes aren't just affecting one person but can affect so many.
If you haven't guessed it yet, I am a child of divorced parents. I can't remember the time that my parents were even together but, apparently once upon a time they were. My parents met when they were in high school and were together for quite a while until two kids later and many disagreements they decide to separate. Am I a sucker for every romance movie in the world? Yes. Am I aware that those are just movies and I may never have that rom-com type of life? Absolutely. Children of divorced parents can look at love in more ways than one. They can understand that you can have a love for someone but not be with them. We understand that sometimes people have more than one great love. You can break our heart but we will get over it faster than you can break it because we see and understand that things will work out for the best.
I don't believe my parents had the perfect divorce with breaking up and deciding that they should just be friends. I believe it was messy. I'm definitely not positive on that but that's just the type of vibe I get from their relationship, due to the fact that it's essentially nonexistent. Whatever mistakes were made and whoever did what doesn't matter. What matters is that they both moved on with their lives. We see that. We, the children of divorced parents, see that life does not stop for anyone. We don't get hung up on what someone says or does. We keep moving forward no matter the circumstance.
We know first hand that all actions have repercussions. Not only to the person themselves but to the people surrounding them. How we spend holidays, birthdays, weekends, and just about everything for at least half of our lives are decided by our parents. Parents know that divorce will have an effect on their children and they do they do their best to make the right decisions. Truth is, there are no right decisions. There is no way you can predict and plan out everything in the future and foresee how certain things are going to go. We understand that our actions can benefit people greatly or heart them immensely. We learn from their messes. We see where they went wrong and have the opportunity to do the opposite.
We, the children of divorced parents, are dangerous. We're dangerous because we've seen hurt. We've seen the mistake. We're dangerous because we've seen more heartbreak than most kids. We're dangerous because we know not to set life aside for anyone, even the people who we love.
