Sex defines our culture. In fact, I would even go as far as saying it reigns throughout almost every society known to man. This topic, overly-discussed and at times beyond frustrating, is seriously a problem.
The underlying issue has nothing to do with sex actually, because this once pivotal act to any relationship has turned quite casual. Women and men have become accustomed to random hook-ups via Tinder and other social engagements. So sex is just sex, right?
Now let me get to my point. There comes a point when certain lines are crossed and sex is no longer nonchalant. When there is a lack of respect and an over-abundance of bodies, that is when people start to get hurt. In further detail, a friend of mine had sexual relations for about a month with someone she encountered on Tinder. She established her lack of interest in a relationship with this guy, however, he proceeded to be a tool by inviting us (that being her, our other friend, and myself) over to hang out. Well shockingly, we came to find out he had invited two other girls over for himself. My friend was completely blind-sided and appalled that this actually happened. As was I...
With this example I just want to point out that sex DOES indeed come with respect. Men and women are constantly hooking up, which is no longer an ungodly sin, however, intimacy is not an excuse for disregarding another humans character. The objectivity needs to come to an end and people have to realize that their partners have emotions and better things to do than be played with like a game of monopoly. Humans are not bound to some lawful agreement when it comes to sex, but for sanity's sake, respect one another and consider instilling some morals and values into every encounter, regardless of what it is.
The way we treat sexuality needs addressing as well. We constantly look, stare and even comment based on physical attraction. That being said, objectification is so prominent on both gender spectrum's. Just think of the amount of ads with half naked men or women. Most often these ads completely lack content, yet they excel in appearance because there is a beautiful figure advocating for a beer or something of those sorts. So the fact that sex sells is arguably true, but why? A body is simply just that; a body. There have been so many times where I have been cat-called on the street or literally proposed to just because a man was attracted to my, I quote, "beautiful curves" or "amazing physique." To be quite frank, I am sick and tired of being seen as just an object for sex, as I am sure plenty of other people are. And the sad part is that there a plethora of examples just like this that would take hours if not days to get into.
All in all, sex has a different meaning for all. But what needs to stop is the disrespect towards one another. Not to mention, only ever seeing people as objects solely for personal pleasure is so demeaning. Everybody has their own qualities and talents that make them unique, so it is time to start realizing this fact.
