In a society where we are relentlessly assaulted with negativity, how are our spirits, bodies and minds supposed to cope while continually dealing with the associated stress? Can they? Of course. I want to share with you guys my list of ways to survive the pressures of life.

1. Create a list of “de-stressing” activities.

My entire life, I have drawn a blank when attempting to develop my own personal definition of self-care. For me, developing this definition was a trial and error process. I have found that writing, cosmetic primping, studying the bible all embody my description of “distressing” activities. Find what works for you and practice them within reason.

2. Use your calendar.

Developing a routine is key. Build consistency around taking care of yourself and make it a priority. If Billy-Jean asks you to go to dinner on Tuesday night, but your calendar says that Tuesday nights are dedicated to personal bible study time, it’s okay to say no. Yes, relationships are important, but it is also important to feel your best. If you are busy trying to please everyone else, when will you have time to please yourself, and if you cannot please yourself, you will never truly be able to please others. If you didn’t really want to go to dinner with Billy-Jean, you will probably be a sour-puss the entire time anyway. Reschedule.

3. Netflix and chill (maybe with a glass of wine).

For all of you workaholics, party animals and people-pleasers, this is for you. Take some time at home and refuel. If you are averaging four hours of sleep and never relax, how can you ever be at your best? Of course, work and taking time to be social is very important, but never prioritize those things over your mental or physical health. Unwind and relax now and then.

4. Say it with me: positivity, positivity, positivity…

This is my biggest challenge. Not only is it cliché, but it’s unreasonably difficult at times. Try to remember that irritation, anger and pessimism solve absolutely nothing. I am slowly learning to put myself in check when I find myself becoming unnecessarily irritated or annoyed. Closing the door of negativity opens the door for self-care.

5. Cultivate a support system.

Surround yourself with people that care about your well-being. If you tell someone that you cannot hang out and explain to them why (not that you have to explain yourself to anyone) and they cop an attitude, that is subversive behavior that is not worth to even dignify with a response. Surround yourself with people who care about how you feel and what you need.

Remember, be easy on yourself. You will not be able to accomplish all of these things to perfection and that is not the goal. Trying is the most important thing. If you want to live a life filled with spiritual health and mindfulness, the first step is simply to make the attempt.