While the typical September Scaries center around the fear of the near-end of warm weather and the coming gray-skied apocalypse, my September Scaries are around something entirely different: cuffing season. Remember last year when you were about a month into school and everyone, I mean everyone, was holding hands and swapping saliva around the campus quad? Yes, folks. That's cuffing season for you! Urban Dictionary defines cuffing season as the fall and winter months where most people go from "talking" to finding themselves in something more serious. I mean, c'mon! Who wouldn't love cuddles on those gray, cloudy, and cold mornings? Ding! Ding! Ding! That would be me!
In just the first few days of September, I went from being utterly oblivious to anyone having interest in me to being caught in the question to be someone's girlfriend. Here are just three reasons why I'm now contemplating late-night snugs with a knot in my stomach. Maybe you can relate!
1. It’s a slew of new people, not just one.
It's highly unlikely that you will be spending all of your time with the new boo and the new boo only. As time goes on, he'll want to introduce you to his friends, and you'll want to introduce him to yours, I hope. I mean isn't impressing the friends like the ultimate in any relationship? Let's say you two are spending some quality time on the couch together. I can guarantee that there will be a night where all of his friends come barging in. It's your job to be cool in front of them. I find their approval to be even more important than your dude's.
2. Attachment. Boredom. Heartbreak.
For me, this has always been the trend. First comes the attachment where you feel like even being away from one another for a night is a painful experience. Snaps don't even help! Next, yep, boredom. You want him out, even when he's been there for just a night – BIG turn of events. Next to come is the heartbreak. You have been one another's everything for the past six months. You have the red heart on Snapchat. He's the only one in your messages. And there's even a whole slew of memes between you two on Facebook Messenger. But the sun is finally shining again, and you feel like pulling those short-shorts out from the bottom of the drawer, and maybe not for your current guy. The guilt sets in. You break up, exchange a few choice words, and then feel like the most horrible person for the rest of spring. To say a breakup isn't messy, well, that's just a lie.
3. I’m TERRIFIED of commitment.
It's never been my forte. My mom will even attest to me being a cold fish to most people I know. Heck, I only have one true friend! No. It's not my mom. With some of the messes of my past, I think it's nearly impossible to commit to something that you know isn't going to be forever. If there's a way to change this, please help a girl out.
Ultimately, I'm in full force September Sweats. And no, it's not because of this heatwave! Scaries. Sweats. Shakes. It's all there. I'm not sure how to avoid it or even if I should. How many more months till spring?
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