To the boy who still isn’t over me,

I’m sorry. Or am I? I always kind of wished that you would feel this way. Back in those days, when I was head over heels for you, I thought about how often I felt so undervalued with you. Now, my value is much more noticeable that I am nonexistent in your life. Those relationships that make you a stronger, better person are also the ones that damage you the most. So, what do you do to move on with your life after such a hard break up?

1. Cry, Deal, Accept

Yep, you read that correctly. I said cry. To be able to move past something, you have to accept it. In other words, you have to deal with it. Your personality might not be one who cries after something so heart retching, but whether you cry it out or not, you must learn to live in your feelings for the moment.

In order to move past the moment, you must accept the moment happened. Many times, women feel as though if they try to forget all of the pain, it will make it better. Honestly, it does temporary. However, you are not doing yourself justice when you push the pain down and out of sight. Don’t dwell in the pain, rather live in it for an allotted time frame.

2. Move On

This doesn’t mean that you go around sleeping your way through your break up until you feel better. Though, that can be a fun weekend. What I mean by moving on is moving on emotionally. I’m not saying you will be completely over the situation. That takes time. What you can do though, is move away from the ideas and habits of the relationship. Having a healthy recovery in regards to a relationship is key to making it to the other side, which means you are over them.

3. Give Yourself Time To Heal

It’s important to remember that the answer to a failing relationship is not to jump into another one. You have to give your heart time to heal. The healing process is not a quick one, in most cases. Running to the next guy is not a good way to overcome your broken heart. All it does is confuse and misuse your feelings.

4. Work On Yourself

A great time to work on you is after a break up. This gives you time to reflect on the person you have become. Since the relationship was not successful, chances are you are not happy with the person you are. If you don’t like that person, this is the time to change it. No one is holding you back from being who you want to be. If you want to cut your hair, do it. This is the time to be selfish. Go do some things you and only you want to do.

Conclusion

Breakups are hard. To the guy who realized how much harder it is to live without me, I’m sorry. To this day, he is still not over me, but I am over him. I wish someone had helped me get over him in a healthier way. Don’t be like me and cheat yourself. Get over them and get on with your life.