Unless you live under a rock or a bridge you have definitely heard about the Bachelor's season finale this past week. This whole season everyone was complaining about Arie being the Bachelor to begin with. He was on the Bachelorette several seasons ago and hardly anyone even knew who he was or cared for that matter.
Personally, I didn't begin watching this show at all until Ben's season of the Bachelor because my roommate in college loved it and we only had my TV and she had to watch it every Monday night. So I actually got into it and started to enjoy it, I still thought the whole concept was ridiculous, but I liked the women on his season (specifically Jojo, who became the Bachelorette).
I never was really a fan of Arie, much like everyone else, it was a popular opinion. I wanted it to be Peter or Dean or someone completely new. Now, my unpopular opinion may be this: I don't think Arie was necessarily wrong for his decisions. The only thing I think he went wrong at is actually proposing.
If you aren't 100% sure about it, don't do it; and that goes for everyone. But his decision to break off the engagement was not wrong. I think following your heart is the only way to get the things you want out of life. It is the only way you are going to be truly happy.
Here's food for a thought: how many people do you know in your lives that break up, start dating someone new and get back together with their ex? I can think of several and one of those people being myself included. The only difference is, our lives aren't taped for the entire world to see and televised on national television.
People break up and get back together all of the time. People don't want to give up their pasts because of the feelings that are still there. Everyone is always so judgmental of the Bachelor's and Bachelorette's because their choices are for the entire world to see and it is judged, when all reality, we make the same decisions they do.
When you find someone you love, you want to hold on to them, why let a good thing go? Arie was doing just that. He knew he had a great thing with both Lauren and Becca, but he didn't know who he loved more. That is another opinion I have: maybe on the show, you can fall in love with two people, but in actual life, I don't think that happens. If you think you're in love with multiple people, you don't love anyone at all. You are just lusting after them.
True love is special.
They also only know each other and film for about six weeks and you cannot put a timeline on love and I know that, especially if you are spending every day together, but I still do not agree with "being in love" with two people at the same time, and yes that is just the Bachelor, but I don't agree with it.
After watching a couple of seasons now of the Bachelor and Bachelorette, I have learned a few things:
1. Chris Harrison is the number one support system for whoever the Bachelor or Bachelorette is.
2. They have to fight for the attention and that is something you should never have to do in an actual relationship.
3. They call each other boyfriend/girlfriend, so basically, they have 30 boyfriends or girlfriends. Um, what? That is not the real world in case you're a sister wife.
4. Rose ceremonies are always uncomfortable for everyone because only the ones with the roses from the dates of the week know for sure that they are safe.
5. There is always that ONE girl in every season that is horrible and loves to start drama, but the Bachelor doesn't see it. AKA Krystal or Corrine.
6. No one but one couple that has gotten engaged on the show has stayed together.
7. True love is not found on this show; it always ends in turmoil.
In this day and age, there are all kinds of ways to find love or try to anyways. We have social media, Tinder, and even going on TV to dating shows and it's a good way to become famous for being awful at dating.
Lesson to learn from this season especially: Don't force yourself into falling in love. Do not say I love you to multiple different people; it will not work out well for you, even if you do. It will end up hurting the both of you in the end. Date the old fashion way. Write love letters. Go on dates to a diner. Don't think you have to be Arie and take us girls to Peru to impress us.
It's the simple things that matter most and will get a girls attention. You'll find love when you least expect it. Just be patient.
