A couple days ago a group of people and I were having a conversation on men and women, how we lack a lot of confidence to go up to a person we find cute and say something. Instead we use a middle man. Now! I'll be the first to say that I've done this. I have no room to talk because my confidence in getting up and talking to my crush is very low.
We are human, so we think a bit too much. Yes guys as well. What if they say no, but their friends are at the table with them, they won't like me. We already prepare ourselves for the worst and we haven't even stood up yet. Our what if's control our lives and give us regrets. Speaking of those. That's the biggest part in this all. If you don't get yourself up, walk over and say something, how do you know how it will end? I'll tell you how it will end if you don't do it. In regret. Instead of those what if's before the standing, you now have what if's after it. So here is your first and final step to this all.
BE CONFIDENT!
One of the main things that came up into this conversation was confidence. The question was asked, "so you're saying if I just walked right up to you, smiled, told you, you were cute and then asked for a date you'd say yes." The answer given in return was yes.
Does that sound odd to you? It shouldn't. Confidence makes you 20 times sexier then you were before. If you notice someone looking and smiling at you from the corner of the room, know they are already interested, they already find you cute. You'll become a lot more attractive if you get up and say something, instead of watching them walk away
People have said this many, many times and I know me saying it won't make a difference. The worst that could happen is they say no. My answer to that is if they say no and they don't even know you yet, are they really worth your time?
So here's my advice for you:
Find confidence.
Stand up.
Walk over there.
Say hello.
And let the adventures begin.
You won't regret it.