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Confidence Is Key?
Lori Abercrombie

Confidence is key?

Then why can't women who weigh more than 120-pounds soaking wet be confident without promoting obesity? Why can't men who weigh less than 150-pounds be confident without being a fag, as if there's a correlation between looks and sexual orientation?

It's easy to forget that you're worth more than your body;

especially in a society that assumes health, personality, and sexiness by the size of a woman's waist and the circumference of a man's biceps.

It's easy to forget your worth when you have these "ideal" looking people advocating for self love all over Instagram. Even if they've struggled themselves, you can't help but think: It's easy for them to say that everyone should love themselves because they don't deal with the hatred and viciousness that comes from others when you don't fit the standards. It's easy for them because they actually mean something to everyone.

It's even easier to forget your worth when you see the less "ideal" self love activists being called disgusting, too skinny, too obese, promotors of unhealthiness. It's so easy to forget that you're worth anything in society when there are photos like this floating around the internet:

If you expect me to believe that confidence is key, then why is this girl constantly praised for her thin and toned body, her confidence, and her intense workouts...

... but this girl is more criticized than praised for her confidence, which stems from different reasons, which she works hard to publicize and make awareness of?

They're both beautiful and inspiring young women, so why is one girl less important than the other, just because she's fat? Why does not being fat make the other more significant, more worshiped? What makes that fair? Aren't differences like these what makes us human in the first place?

When did the word fat become derogatory for women unless we're talking about her ass? When did fat and thin become derogatory for men?

Why are we so hateful of the people who strive for comfort in their own skin?

Why is it that a girl can't be confident without being a "bitch" or a "slut," and a guy can't be confident without being a "fuck boy?"

More than enough of you are spreading this infectious hatred for people who look different, for people who don't fit society's "ideal" standards. You are spreading a vicious plague of ignorance towards those who just want to love themselves and influence others to do the same, even more so for those who don't "look good"...

...and yet people are supposed to believe that confidence truly is key?

People who have their own struggles with outer and inner beauty don't need you telling them that they're worth less than someone else, because they're already telling themselves that every day.

I know those struggles all too well, as do an unfortunate amount of people I've both met and have yet to meet.

If you want people like us to believe that it's okay to be confident, then stop treating the "less appealing" like unlovable monsters and start treating us like the humans that we are -- then, you can get back to us on that time-old motto of yours.

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