I am the infamous other woman. It's not like it sounds though, I didn't seek out wrecking your relationship, and I didn't seek out ruining you. I was lied to as well and I was cheated just like you. I didn't know about you just like you didn't know about me, until now at least. You may find it hard to believe, "how did you not know?" is a question I have gotten often, but it was an innocent mistake for being trusting and willing to see the best in everyone.
You guys have more of a past, you have real love, laughter, and feelings, and all I have is a few dates and some kisses in between, but that doesn't change that we are both victims to a guy who is pinning us against each other. You don't win, we both lost.
You will always hate me, you will always curse my name, you always see me in public and giggle with your friends, and I will always hold my head high. I will see you on his arm and pretend nothing happened and that you guys are strangers for your rekindled relationship's sake, but remember you have blamed everyone but him. You can say these terrible things about me and share your side of the story with our mutual friends and I will always feel bad for you. I feel bad that you will always blame me for your failed relationship. I feel bad that you will always compare yourself to me, and I will feel bad that you're so hateful and damaged because of him. I feel bad because every time you find another girl's bobby pin in his room, or earring back on his floor you will think it's me. Every time his phone buzzes you will be tempted to peek to see if I am calling, and anytime him and I are at a mutual place you will be concerned, and you will brush all these things off and pretend you don't see it or you don't care and you will hate me for it. But it's not me, see I learned, he's just moved onto his next victim.
When you're doing these things and you're crying because he has done it again, don't lessen yourself. He is the problem and there is nothing you can do. Some people love scandals, lies, and being manipulative, and sadly we are the victims of those people, we are the victim of a cheater. When someone cheats, you can leave with the dignity you have left and realize that you could not have stopped this, or you can beat yourself up over it and probably go back in hopes that it'll work out "this time." Please, take the first option and save yourself.
But, for the time being I will let you call me the other woman. I will let you be mean and hateful, because by the time you realize enough is enough this will be a thing so far in the past for me that I will barely remember it. Every story has two sides, sometimes you just have to ask for "the other woman's" side.
