1. You look like you’re pretty strong… for a girl.

Yes, I am pretty strong for the average person you see walking down the street on a daily basis, but for a GIRL? Really? I get it, my muscles intimidate your non-existent ones, but why do you have to make this a gender thing? You get muscles by working hard, period. I work hard.

2. Can I touch your muscles?

Um… No, you cannot touch my muscles. I honestly think that is so rude. It is my body, asking me if you can touch my muscles is like asking me if you can poke my butt. Absolutely not! Why would I be comfortable letting strangers just up and touch me? So, unless the person offers you "Would you like to touch my muscles?" (although they probably will not) don't ask. Period.

3. Flex! (in a crowded place). 

Listen, I don't feel comfortable flexing in the middle of a crowded restaurant while everybody is looking at me like, "What is wrong with her?" or rolling their eyes at me like, "What a show-off." I am super proud of my biceps, but there's no need to show me off like a pet monkey that just learned a new trick.

4. I can do it! It’s heavy.  

Honey, I lift 100 pounds on the daily, I doubt that's what a pack of water bottles weighs. When you tell me, you can do it because it is "TOO heavy" you are not being nice, you are not asking politely if I need help, you are underestimating me, and belittling me. I am a strong, independent woman ok? I am sure you can see that, so if you must, ask if I need help, but I most likely will tell you I've got it, because let's be honest, you and I both know I've got it.

5. Your hands are SO rough! 

Yes, yes they are. Because I work them hard. That is what hands were made for, for working hard. I don't want weak hands, I will take my callus covered, scared hands any day if that means I can climb a rope and lift a barbell efficiently without feeling any pain. I mean let's be real, with tough, all terrain hands, I'll probably live longer than you if any sort of havoc breaks loose, so who's really winning here?

6. Did your dad teach you how to lift? 

No, but I can teach him if he wants me to. Feel like banging my head on something when people ask me this.

7. Don’t get TOO big, ok? 

What in the HELL is TOO big? I am not afraid of getting "too big", if that is what it takes for me to become the best I can be at my sport. When you tell me "Don't go getting TOO big ok?" It feels like you are telling me to just up and quit when I'm "good enough". Absolutely not.

8. But you don’t want to look like HER right?  (To your favorite female athlete).

So what if I do? How is that any of your business? This is one of the ones that boils my blood the most honestly. I understand that when people around me that love me say things like this, they are trying to protect me from the bias of the world that taunt the fruit of my hard work. (my gains) But hey grandma? I'm not a delicate little flower, I can take anything people have to say about how I look. I know what worries you the most is how men are going to see me, "No man wants a women that is stronger than him" right? But I have faith in the fact that the right man will, in fact, he will be proud of me, and my hard work, just like you should be.