I remember the day like it was yesterday. Mom and Dad called me and my little brother into the living room and explained that their love for each other had dwindled. They told us it would be better for everyone if they filed for a divorce. At that moment, my entire world came crashing down around me. I was going to be a child who came from a “broken family.” However, as I grew older, I realized how my parents’ divorce has changed my life positively, not negatively. Oddly enough, my parents’ relationship has never been better. They call each other their best friends and this tends to shock some people.
Often, society shows divorced spouses despising the sight of each other. I am very thankful that my parent’s relationship is not like this. They remain to have the same philosophies when it comes to raising my brother and I. There has never been a time when I have felt pulled between the two of them. Proving that they have our best interest at heart is always a priority. We continue to have all holidays and special events as a family united. There is never a lack of love, guidance, and loyalty.
My mom has remarried and her new husband is awesome. I have been exposed to many situations that I would never have an opportunity to experience if it wasn’t for my parents’ divorce. I was able to step out of my comfort zone in numerous ways. I have been able to travel to a different country and all over the United States and I have been exposed to situations that have tested my strength. I have learned how to keep an open mind. Yes, there were some tough times, but, as a family, we were able to overcome them. In the beginning of this process, I prayed for my parents to stay together. Initially, I was apprehensive to who he was. As time went on, and I was able to see the beauty and happiness that he brought out in my Mom, it seems as if he has always been a part of our family. There is no animosity between any of us as we all remain collaborative.
Now, I cannot imagine going back to the way things used to be. When I was younger, I wished that my parents could save their marriage and I thought our whole family was going to be shattered. That’s the opposite of what it ended up being. In looking back, the whole experience has shaped me into a more independent and accepting individual. I am thankful that my parents were able to remain friends. Their divorce did not leave me “broken,” it left me changed, but in a positive way.
