Every experience you have either lasts for seconds in reality or in your own little world. You choose to pause time when you put down your cell phone and pay attention to the person in front of you. The best times are when you just click with someone. When you blink and hours have gone by but it only feels like seconds; it feels like you're on top of the world and even if something negative came along, you're still riding that high.
I've never felt so empowered and determined in life until Super Bowl Sunday LI, while I'm a Patriots fan and that OT was unbelievable, the Patriots winning has nothing to do with this feeling. I've been on Cloud 9 all week and it just feels like everything is falling into place despite the usual obstacles that keep popping up.
I was at a party with some friends when I met this guy, who made me feel like anything could happen. We danced to a couple of songs. I tried to lead a few times, which made him roll his eyes at me. He held me close as we talked to friends. His daughter danced with us and the looks he gave me... I felt as if time slowed down and I was watching myself dance in slow motion with him and his daughter with slow latin beats in the background. As far as a "hot second" relationship goes this was the best.
I have never needed a guy to know my worth to people. I don't need to be dependent on a guy. Despite the warnings, people felt the need to give me, dancing and kissing him has almost given me this confidence that everything is possible. I don't care about past things, I want to live in the present.
For the past three months, I've been seeing the same 30 people and right before New Year's Eve, I got into a disagreement with a lot of them. I've been dealing with hours being cut at work. I've been meeting a lot of guys who just turn out to be what I don't need in life. But with this guy, I just got a spark where even if "we" didn't happen, it didn't matter.
This time last year, while I was in a relationship and happy at the time, I was so stressed out about everything else. My boyfriend at the time was the rock and cheerleader that I needed. I felt that I could overcome my obstacles but not all of them. The difference between this time last year and now is that I'm finally accepting myself. When people say you need to be able to love yourself before you're able to really accomplish anything, they weren't kidding. It wasn't that I didn't love myself, I was just so hard on me. I would give everyone a break but myself. So I finally got a few weeks where I was able to recharge from last year. Recharge and think about life. I just feel that I'm finally getting a break.
I've met some awesome people in the past few weeks, that are amazing to have in my corner. I found a great support system and while the majority of my friends don't have similar interests, it just means that I have someone for everything in my life. I know that in few days or weeks, I'm going to come down from this high and something may or may not happen. Who knows, life is a gamble, you don't know where you're going to be or with whom. You don't know what's coming, but that's the thrill of the whole ride. Figuring it out and knowing you have a group of friends you can turn to.
It's all about pushing forward and allowing yourself to experience new things and people. It's the little things in life that help push us forward to bigger and better things.