Striking,
Cloudy,
Vengeful,
You can’t hide what
you did to me.
Shamed,
Red,
Teared,
I can’t hide what
I said to you.
Watching,
Learning,
Loving,
It’s just what they’re
meant to do.
Clear,
Sky,
Blue,
Made for me to look
At you.
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1. Use singular they for people whose pronouns you don't know, people who use those pronouns, and stop using him/her.
One of the most common, and often cluttered, phrases I hear when people try to talk about a person whose gender is unknown is he/she, him/her, (s)he. This is not only clunky and annoying to say, but ignores the fact that not everyone uses those pronouns or identifies as a man or a woman. When you say he/she you're really forgetting part of the population and making a lot of assumptions about people you don't know. This also goes for assuming a stranger's gender -- how someone presents isn't an indication of the gender they are or the pronouns they use. By assuming, you're misgendering someone before you even know them, when it is totally easy to use them, where you are assuming nothing. Singular they has been in use for hundreds of years. Using it will declutter language and create an environment in the world that allows for transgender and non-binary people to not be misgendered.
Source: genderqueerid.com
2. Stop using the words "opposite sex" or "both sexes" or "opposite gender" or "both genders".
Not only is this language erasing of transgender people outside the binary, but it is also erasing intersex people. The idea of the opposite of gender or sex, first of all, makes no sense. There is no opposite when it comes to biology, and since there are more than two sexes and more than two genders, there can be no opposite and no both (both implies two). Replace this language with all sexes or all genders and just get rid of the idea of opposite gender or sex from your mind and vocabulary entirely.
3. Ask people's pronouns when you meet them.
In order to help create a safer environment for trans and non-binary people, asking for pronouns and educating others on why you're asking is an important step. This allows the person to give you the pronouns they want you to use and stops you from assuming their gender, misgendering them and making them uncomfortable and hurt. This is something that is good to normalize is every conversation, not just in LGBTQIA+ spaces or in spaces that you suspect trans and non-binary people might be. Trans and non-binary people are everywhere and the more common asking about pronouns becomes, the less people will be misgendered.
4. Use the word cisgender.
The word cisgender means that you identify with the gender you are assigned at birth. Basically, not transgender or non-binary. Using the word cisgender helps stop the idea that being trans or non-binary is 'abnormal' and that cisgender is the norm. It is a term that has existed for a long time. Using the term cisgender also, as the picture above says, helps to maintain that all gender experiences are valid, and all right rather than abnormal.
5. Stop saying "born a boy/girl" about a transgender or non-binary person.
I can't stress how annoying and upsetting this phrasing is and I hear it all the time by people who claim to be allies and people who are completely ignorant. No one is 'born' anything. Your gender and sex assignment are things that are given to you when you are born. This also is essentially outing trans and non-binary people to people who they don't know, misgenders them, and continues to hold up cis-sexist and transphobic ideas that one is born a gender and that their gender is innate and unchanging. It provides people with unnecessary and personal information about someone's genitals (since that is really what someone is saying when saying born a boy/girl). If someone is saying this, they are telling you the make up of someone's genitals, which is completely unnecessary and invasive. You don't need to mention what someone was assigned at birth.
Source: flavorwire.com
6. Stop using the term 'preferred pronouns'.
While the term is better than not asking at all, it still really isn't a good term. The word preferred implies that these pronouns are wanted, but optional when that is not the case. My pronouns and other transgender people and non-binary people's pronouns are not optional; they are absolutely required. If you want to ask for someone's pronouns just ask 'what pronouns do you use?'. The word preferred isn't needed because it isn't preferred, it's required.
Source: nytimes.com
7. Stop using a transgender or non-binary person's dead name.
The term dead name means someone's name before they changed it (if they changed it). You have no right to use or know that name. It isn't a name the person uses anymore and to use it is disrespectful and violent. Saying things like 'Before Doug was Doug he went by ____" is not okay. Not only does it out someone as transgender or non-binary, it gives someone very personal and unnecessary information. Having a dead name used is hurtful and makes me instantly not trust someone. Do not ask for someone's dead name: there is no need for you to know it; it is not their name. Before you say something like the above example, think about why you're saying it. Is that really relevant to the conversation? Why do you feel the need to share this incredibly personal information that you have no right to share? Plain and simple: don't use someone's dead name. It's disrespectful and cruel.
While this list is only a basic introduction to improving language and making spaces safer, there are plenty more ways and articles that can provide more information and education. Learning and unlearning is a process that is incredibly important to making spaces safer for trans and non-binary people.
Stop Hollywood
“Destiny is for losers. It’s just a stupid excuse to wait for things to happen instead of making them happen.”
Things don’t happen out of pure coincidence. You set yourself up for everything that comes and goes from your life. Just like Blair, knowing that you have the power to control your own life and future makes you unstoppable.
“If you really want something you don’t stop for anyone or anything until you get it.”
Any strong woman knows that if she wants something she cannot rely on any other person but herself. Having a mind like Blair’s means that if there is something you want to achieve, then you will have no problem getting it on your own and without letting roadblocks get in the way.
“You can’t make people love you, but you can make them fear you.”
Love is complicated. Only we get to decide whom we love and we cannot force another person to love us if they truly do not. Having a strong head on your shoulders and being able to accept this is one thing, but knowing that you can have other influences on people makes you not only strong, but powerful.
“You need to be cool to be queen. Anne Boleyn thought only with her heart and she got her head chopped off.”
What Blair is trying to say here is that you can’t just “think” with your heart. You need to have a mind before you can let your feelings get the best of you. Being an independent woman comes with distinguishing when to use your brain and when to follow your heart.
“Once men have tasted caviar, it baffles me how they settle for catfish.”
When it comes to men, Blair has never been but brutally honest. Being a strong woman means knowing and acknowledging your worth.
“They say Rome wasn’t built in a day. And yet what a difference a day makes.”
Each day we are given a new chance to start fresh. As days build up we see changes and improvements within ourselves. As Blair suggests, each day counts.
"Ladies you can give your tiny brains a rest. Once again the world has proven that anything you can do, I can do better."
Confidence is one of Blair’s strong suits. She isn’t afraid to admit who she is, and that’s something that speaks volumes about a person. She’s as strong as she is because she can tell people who she is before they get a chance to make their own opinion of her.
Some say that Blair Waldorf can come off as a bitch. I find that to be the case with most women who assert their presence and have a strong sense of self such as Blair. Just because a woman knows what she wants and sets no limitations for herself does not mean that she’s a bitch. It means that she is a strong, beautiful, and confident individual. More women should aspire to be like Blair Waldorf. Her life lessons and traits are what sets her aside from others.
All hail the real Queen B.
kaboompics
1. You can't remember your last day off.
Maybe it was three weeks ago. Oh, and you had to request the day off because you had a doctor's appointment.
2. Whenever someone asks to hang out, you're working.
Honestly, don't even bother inviting me places. You already know what the answer will be.
3. When you do see your friends, you're in a "treating mood."
You've managed to save so much money that when the bill comes to the table, you treat everyone to dinner. Finally. Something to spend your money on.
4. You work so much you don't have time to spend the money you're making.
You've casually spent maybe $3 total this week considering you've only had enough time between work to grab a coffee...once.
5. You're too tired to function when you aren't working.
Finally, a day off and the only thing on my mind is how long I can sleep today. Again, don't even bother texting me because I'll be too tired to move.
6. Finally seeing your friends and having way too much to catch up on.
You are with the group again and suddenly you've realized everything that you missed since the last time you've been together, which was more a month ago. Oops!
So, it's time to stop working so much and take time off to enjoy what really matters: the people we surround ourselves with.
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