Christian school's are no secret, and whether you've grown up in a Christian household or not, you may have attended one of these schools.

Now good or bad experiences, they all make us who we are today.

There's no sense in holding onto past hurts or pains, only learning from them so we can do better.

And for some people Christian schools were a real turning point, a chance to hear things they hadn't heard before, and be in an environment they'd never been in before.

But here's where we're failing.

Christianity is a choice, it's an invitation from God to be in a relationship with Him.

Once we make that decision and allow God to change our lives, new choices and decisions will be made in how we live our lives, how we treat others, and what our convictions are.

Similarly to a Christian home, it's about setting an example of what being a Christian should look like, more than anything else.

But there are a lot of things, I'm personally not okay with.

You've got two groups, the kids fighting against the rules, not wanting to confirm.

Then the people pleasers, the kids willing to do anything and everything that the teachers and parents have set before them.

The first group gets made to feel like they're different, they're odd, they don't belong, and if they want to be real Christians, they need to be like the rest of the school.

The second group aids the teachers in the judgment and to make sure all rules are being followed.

Essentially like a cult, but it's better to call it school instead.

These kids will then go off to either colleges or other career paths, and either push to do whatever they want to do, going the extreme route to do everything their school wouldn't let them do, or the other group released into the wild not knowing what to do as they have no teachers or leaders to tell them how to behave.

And none of this portrays Jesus or His heart.

Mandatory chapel doesn't make kids want to go to church.

Not wearing makeup doesn't make you more spiritual.

Staying out of relationships doesn't make you a better person. (Although I like to tell myself that.)

Creating an awkwardness between sitting next to, hugging, walking with, or befriending the opposite sex will not stop people from temptations or acting out.

Just as putting people down, or shaming people doesn't convict them enough to change them.

I'm a girl who went to a Christian school, I fought against the mold, I wore makeup,

I had boyfriends, I wasn't a fan of the rules, and in no way did the school bring me to where I'm at with the Lord today.

I continue to go to a Christian college, much bigger, and much more diverse.

And for me, there is nothing wrong with a Christian environment, boundaries, or guidelines, but it's important to remember that none of that makes us a Christian or better than everyone else. It's a choice, no matter where you're at.