I have learned a lot while being in college. A lot of the lessons I've learned have taken place outside of the classroom. One of the things I've realized is that when it comes to dating in college, people are generally split on two opposite sides of the spectrum: either you feel that dating during college is for chumps OR you feel like if you’re not dating then you’re not living your life the right way.
I have crossed paths with both types of people, and have learned that generally, if someone is “pro college relationships,” then they are more likely to shove their ideas down your throat if you don’t agree.
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I am tired of it.
I am in no way opposed to relationships. I think that they can be a really cool thing if they’re with the right person. However, I also personally don’t see the point of being in one during this season of my life. I have schooling for the next 8+ years and I believe that my grades and the degree I'm working towards are the most important things in my life right now. Knowledge is something that can never be taken from you, so I am obviously going to gain as much as possible right now.
I do not sit around and tell everyone “focus on school more and less on your significant other” because I understand that people are different. However, I also don’t care about how you’ve “found the one” and are “really sorry that I haven’t found anyone yet.” It’s not about me not finding anyone; it’s about me not looking for anyone. I am very content spending my Valentine’s Day with my roommate at dinner and then writing a psych paper afterwards. I am very content spending my Saturday nights with my friends at the movies instead of a significant other.
I’m not trying to make it seem like college relationships are wrong. But I am okay with going to the library instead of my boyfriend’s house and I don’t need you to tell me that’s wrong. I have been surrounded by 'high school sweetheart' relationships my entire life so I learned very early on in high school that that just isn’t the path for me.
My life choices are my choices and I am very happy with them. I am young, and relationships are going to take a back seat in my life for right now. Are they going to be there forever? I don’t think so, but who knows. Life is pretty crazy and I’m not sure where I’m headed; I just know that I’m happy with it.
