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Choosing Myself On National Girlfriend Day

Loving who you are is not an act of narcissism

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Choosing Myself On National Girlfriend Day

As most of my friends are in relationships, you might peg me as the bitter single girl (especially after semi-recent heartache). But you won't catch me complaining when no one plasters their social media with messages of me saying how much they love me and what an amazing girlfriend I am. It doesn't matter if someone thinks I'm "girlfriend/wife material" or how much they can't wait for the major milestones. I don't want someone calling me their other half. I'm not half of anything. I'm whole just as I am and I don't want anyone who thinks I'm less than that. As RuPaul says, "If you can't love yourself how in the hell can you love somebody else" (Amen!).

So take the time to put yourself first, love who you are, and do things that you love. As for me, I'm going to appreciate the single life because now I can do things without worrying about a plus one. And to all the other single gals out there, go do something daring, make an adventure out of it. Even if you're adventures isn't something you'd do again, you'll be left with a story to tell.

I don't think enough people worry about their needs first because we see it as an act of narcissism, but spoiler alert everyone: Loving who you are and putting yourself first is not an act of narcissism.

If you don't love who you are or where you are in life, take the time to ask yourself why, and change it. You're not stuck being one thing your entire life. Life is about growth and change, just make sure that change is what you want to be for yourself.

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