Time and time again you will see a guy misuse a girl who is crazy about him. A lot of times we can see when a girl is being treated poorly or wrongly. Sometimes however, you can not see it. This can be the case of simply not choosing her, and if this is the case leave her.
If you do not choose her everyday, give her your all everyday, take her for granted, ultimately you are hurting her. You can be with someone, and you can have them in your life but are you choosing them? No, this is as simply put as one neglecting themselves. Are you gonna choose to make your day the easiest and best it can be, or will you neglect what you have to do and make your life difficult? You need to ask yourself, if you are in a relationship, or going to be, "Why am I choosing my partner today?" IF you Can NOT do that every day you wake up, what is the point? Sure, you may have a disconnected day, but if multiple days go by and by, and you can't find the answer, let them go.
Your loved one deserves to be chosen enthusiastically, as well as yourself. There are so many things in life that are just mediocre or just okay. Why make your relationship one of those? I'm not saying everything should just be a walk in the park, or everything will always be natural, because you have to work on those things. If you are choosing them everyday, the process will be a million times easier. The countless times I have seen a couple purposely be disrespectful and purposely inattentive to their partner has been astounding to me. You could buy a beautiful flower and bring it into your home, but fail to water it. Therefore you just left it alone in countless ways to wither in the dry hot heat just like your intimate relationship.
You can love someone and not choose them. Which defeats any purpose of loving them in the first place. In life we face numerous choices, plentiful from decision to decision. Being chosen by someone as a choice says more than any kind of words, for instance saying, "I love you" means absolutely nothing without showing why. Which is also known as, your choices to why you do or say the words to begin with in the first place. As much as you want someone to choose you, you can not make them, that is a fool's task.
For everyday that you do not choose her, it becomes easier and easier to choose her a little bit less each day. This will become a venomous and repetitious act that will conclusively be too toxic for a recovery. It is torture for everyone.
So for heaven's sake, choose her everyday or leave her.
