More often than not, I hear mostly women, but occasionally men, talking about how chivalry is either dead, or about how much they hate it. They claim is shows weakness of the woman and just empowers the man, which in these times is a very controversial topic but we won’t get into that. I believe that chivalry is not dead and it shouldn’t be hated on by others.

First off, I happen to know first hand that chivalry is far from being dead. Maybe it's because he's from the south or maybe, just maybe, his parents taught him how to treat a woman and be a gentleman. P.S. I'm going with the second one. P.S.S. To his parents, thank you for raising him right! :)

For those of you who don't know what chivalry is, it's basically when men are polite and respectful to women. Some examples of chivalry include: opening the door, pushing in her chair, paying for the meal, offering up your jacket if she's cold, buying her flowers, or other sweet, polite gestures. I've experienced a bit of chivalry in the past, but with my current boyfriend, it’s incredible the amount I’ve experienced. And I absolutely LOVE it!! On our last visit with each other, he flew here and I drove us around but he told me to park the car somewhere downtown and to stay in the car until he comes back. Little did I know, he found the local flower shop and bought me my favorite flowers! Seriously, how cute and sweet is that?!?! Also, on our first date he "yelled" at me, but not really, about how I need to let him open the doors for me, and he also pushed in my chair at the restaurant. Sorry if I'm gushing too much, but I seriously love how well he treats me. Not only have I experienced chivalry first hand, but I’ve observed it in my friends and other relationships. Chivalry is NOT dead!

Secondly, why do you hate it so much? Men are not doing it because they think you’re weak and can't do it yourself, they're doing it because they respect you and think you are worthy of their respect. Some say it’s a form of oppression on women, but it really isn't. Men are simply being polite, how hard is that to understand? Is it really that hard for you to believe a man can be nice, sweet, caring, polite, and respectful towards a woman?

I mean no, not every guy is like that and not every guy knows or has the desire to treat a woman right but they sure as heck could learn a thing or two on respect. I really just don't understand why people hate chivalry. I want to be treated with respect, and I want my boyfriend to open doors for me and offer me his jacket if I'm cold. Also, I know he wants to do all those things for me too, he’s treated me like a queen from day one and continues to day in, day out, no matter how difficult I am to handle that day.

Chivalry is far from dead, and should not be hated.

"A gentleman will open doors, pull out chairs, and carry her bags. Not because she’s helpless or unable, but because he wants to show her that she is valuable and worthy of respect." -unknown