I have never been much of a believer for love at first sight, for I could never understand how it is that the first time that you look at someone you love absolutely everything about them. What if you don’t like the way they pick their nose or the way that they look at you? But when it happened to me was when I truly understood what people meant when they said that.
They didn’t mean that the second you look at someone, you automatically fall in love with them; they meant that they loved the way their eyes touched yours for the first time, or the way you smiled back as your cheeks turned red, or the way that they laughed when they heard your name for the very first time, or when you accidentally said it wrong because you were too unbearably drunk to say it right.
It’s the little things about someone that make you fall in love with him or her; it's not the fact that you looked at them once and then you knew. It is the fact that if you would have looked at them over and over again, you would have still loved them just the same, maybe even more every time.
And I am not going to sit here and tell you what I think love is, or my story of how I fell in love because that’s boring and there are far too many books on the same old tail, how the boy met the girl and how they fell in love and lived happily ever after.
But this is not that type of story; I am going to tell you how I decided that it was time to move on because that’s what people aren’t telling you. It's not about the happy ever after, it's about what happens when you think you found that but it’s actually the complete opposite, what happens when you get your heart broken, when the person that you thought was everything to you suddenly is not.
So let’s start with the gory details, the stuff that bring tears to your eyes, that makes you upset or depressed or maybe go to the gym and lose some weight or maybe start eating healthy, because none of that stuff actually matters. You feel pretty bad and that’s all, at least that’s how I felt for a while until I didn’t, until I just felt new.
AND SO HERE, I LEFT.
That’s it.
That’s the big secret, understand that your life, your career, and future should always come first.
That if you see yourself in a relationship that is going nowhere, take yourself out and be with someone else.
Suddenly you move on; you eventually wake up one day and you feel all better, you don’t feel hurt anymore, you don’t feel like you are missing something. You just feel better, you feel ready to start over. One day it all just kicks in, it all just makes sense; you wake up and you are ready to start your life, alone.
And that’s where you have got to start, where there is no one when you are in your absolute most alone state, because if you don’t know yourself without someone you don’t deserve to be with him or her. Because I am here to tell you the second that person leaves, your world start crumbling and hell, it hurts.
So, blink, breath in and out and look at the wonders of love; one day it’ll all make sense and then you’ll laugh at your silly moments and by then they’ll be nothing but memories from the life you once had and the person you once were.
