This is not a topic that is new, this topic has been around for centuries. Why do the majority of women go back to a man that has cheated in the relationship? A relationship can not have a solid foundation without trust and once that trust is broken can it be rebuilt? Some say yes and others say no. Trust can always be rebuilt no matter what the relationship is, whether is it a personal, family or friendship. It just depends on the individual. The question that can never get a correct response is why do some women need to feel the need to go back to a man that has betrayed them and broken their trust? It is because the fact that she loves him so much that she understands “we are all humans, we all make mistakes”? It is that we were brought up in a world that states that it is normal for men to cheat and that's why we need to accept this fact?
I needed answers so I ventured out to talk to different individuals about this topic. Talking to many students on campus to get their responses and their results seemed to be divided.
Student Justin Arrington: Unless a woman is married I do not understand why she would go back. It just seems she is putting herself in a dangerous position because we men know what we are doing. So if we still decided to go forward with the act, then that's just us showing you that, that moment of sex was more important than your feelings, so no I don't understand why some women do it. Actions speak louder than words
Student Kristy Davis: I think women go back to men who cheat on them because we as women are built to be loving and forgiving, that's what makes us great mothers and nurturers.
Student Jessica Walker: Honestly, I feel like women go back to a man after he cheats is because they have low self esteem. They may feel like they deserved to get cheated on, they are not good enough for anybody else or they feel like they have invested time into the person and eventually he will change.
Student James Green: I don't know why a women would go back into a relationship with a man who cheated. We as men have too much pride, that's why when women cheat on us, we do not go back, We can not handle a female stepping out on us. Yet, some men do it all the time, I can't explain it but at the end of the day I feel like no woman deserves that and sometimes I wish women would see the Queen in them and know they deserve a man who will leave before he cheats.
There are no legit answer to why women go back to a cheating man. There shouldn't be a right or wrong answer being everyone's situation is different and every heart is different. Just know that if you are a woman who is in that situation before you go back to that relationship, make sure to analyze the situation first. Can you really forgive that man? Meaning to forgive but not to forget, nor bring it up during an argument. Can you trust him when he says he is out with the boys or at work? Do you feel like you have to go through his phone and keep tabs on him? Can you handle the situation and still have high self esteem in the process? Ask yourself those questions before headed back into the relationship but just make sure that you are happy with your choice. It's not about what your friends says, family or what you feel people may think because at the end of the day you and ONLY YOU have to live with whatever decision you make and that's all that matters.
