Many men and women lead colorful lives. There are those that feature great emotion and tend to run their mouths and then there are others that seem to be so natural in leading and being charming that it can be somewhat amazing for some and and annoying to others. There will probably be a return to a time when there was royalty and chivalry but it will progress slowly. As a result there is a change in the world where political correctness is dwindling and the battle between government officials, not to mention an absence of a leader in government will make people turn on each other. What follows a great leader but charisma? When you see people every day, you can see when others avoid a bad conversation or when they listen. They talk about any open topic like politics or the weather. Many people approve of a person who listens. This is part of a charismatic personality.

When we were young, we were taught to be polite to our elders and our neighbors. We tend to stop talking too much and talk without spreading gossip or vulgar things. However, parents reach us in time and makes us pick up these traits or habits naturally. This can bring out the charismatic side of us as well. What is not to love about a superior person that touches on the habits that anyone can keep? It can mean that the parent has done their job in raising their children. It is charisma that will pull us through.

What does Barack Obama have? Or Hilary Clinton? They each have charisma. They say things that others feel belongs to us. They reach out to us and make us believe that we are the only ones in the room they can talk to about anything. Charismatic people know what is involved in making friends or personal relationships. There would be nothing without individuals such as Rosa Parks, Martin Luther King or even Oprah. To those individuals, there’s a great big halo over their heads and they seem like a great example of a mentor or a “superhuman”.

So, charisma has its unruly beginnings. You are either born with it or it can also be learned. Many will debate its origins but a person’s personality will always be intact at a early age. Freud’s theory said it best.

He believed this about human personality: The adult personality emerges as a composite of early childhood experiences, based on how these experiences are consciously and unconsciously processed within human developmental stages, and how these experiences shape the personality.

He knew well because charisma may be part of our inner personality. Those who care about where charisma came from, will not care about that as much because even if charisma does or doesn’t run deep in all of us, we will strive to have that in our lives daily.