Before you come after me feminists, know I am not defending the guys who grope you on the subway. I have never touched a woman without consent and I have no intentions to. All I ask is, are men allowed to say anything to women anymore without being labelled sexist pigs?
I was having this very conversation with a few of my guy friends about a week ago. My friend is currently attending Grad School and he was telling me about an encounter he had. He was walking to class and saw what he describes to be "one of the hottest girls of all time." He claims she was like a younger Kate Upton, maybe even hotter. He saw she stopped walking to check her phone and he took this as a perfect opportunity to go compliment her, and tell her she was beautiful. Unfortunately, the girl did not take the compliment as he expected. Instead she rolled her eyes and walked away. My friend was so confused, and reasonably so. All he wanted was to give a girl a compliment? No harm done right?
The problem is, these days girls are taught that anything a guy says to them is offensive and objectifying. If a guy tells you you're pretty, he's suggesting all you're good for is your looks. But if a guy doesn't tell you you're pretty, F him right? Who needs his opinion. It's all very confusing and frankly, doesn't make much sense.
Now I've seen some guys take it too far. I don't agree with screaming things at girls while they're walking down the street, but I think we have to understand where these guys are coming from. Ladies, they're trying to compliment you, the way men have been told to compliment women for centuries, they're just not going about it in the right way. I don't think these men are evil, sexist, misogynistic, pigs who need to be destroyed. They're just misunderstood and misinformed. Their intentions are good, it's their approach that's wrong. But maybe women should start being more understanding.
Think about this, what if the next time a guy yells "you're beautiful" at you while you're walking down the street, instead of flipping them off, you could say thank you. Change the way you look at the situation. Maybe that guy isn't being disrespectful, maybe he's just being kind. Or, if it really bothers you, go talk to him about it. Let him know you'd appreciate he not yell at you. But women really need to start letting guys know what they want and how we can help them. The whole "I'm fine" nonsense is getting old, but god forbid we complain about it right? You can't just curse at us and expect us to understand you. I want to know the right way to talk to you girls, cause apparently none of the approaches men take are right.
So are we allowed to talk to girls anymore? Please let me know.
