It's really not as flattering or nice as you think. It's actually really super creepy, and making people feel bad about being creeped out is so not cool.

I get it though, I really do. You see someone that is really attractive to you and you just feel compelled to tell them, so you do. But let me tell you, most of us can tell that you were staring, we know that you're about to say something, and we're already creeped out.

Crazy things happen in today's society. Hundreds of people go missing and many are never found. So, I'm sorry if you think we're rude because we decided to not acknowledge the fact that you were trying to "compliment" us while we were walking to our cars at 11 p.m. I'm also sorry that we refused to give you our numbers, which in turn led to you giving us yours and ended with us never seeing you or speaking to you again.

But you can't be mad at us for being cautious.

Yeah, maybe you're not a total whack job. But that does not mean the person before you or after you is not. You can never be too safe.

And to all the people who are saying or thinking things like:

"They were just trying to be nice!"

"They just wanted to be your friend."

"How are you ever going to make friends?"

"You should be flattered that someone noticed you."

There is a time and a place for all of that.

Randomly stalking someone down a Target isle is not the place to be "friendly." Showing up at someone's workplace multiple times within a week is also very unnecessary.

You're trying to be nice, sweet, or maybe even considerate. But unfortunately, this isn't a Hallmark movie. This is real life. It is scary, frightening, and terrifying. We have to look out for ourselves.

And until all the Aileen Wuornos', John Wayne Gacy's, and Ted Bundy's of the world are caught and apprehended, I will continue to speed walk to my car and I will continue to ignore most of the comments I hear.

Compliments and catcalling could potentially be just as harmful as anything else in this world, so stop telling people they should be happy about it because "at least they noticed you" or because "you're beautiful, you should be used to it."

I'm here to support the men and women who get uncomfortable or freeze when they get hit on. It's a chilling and intimidating world out there, and you really never know what to expect. So, keep your guard up and your head down (if that's your thing) and don't let a stranger's niceness fool you.

And if you're one of those people who actually enjoys the attention and it makes you feel great or whatever, then more power to you. Maybe one day I'll be more like you, but for now, I'm okay with sticking to myself.