Two simple words have been flooding social media since Sunday when actress Alyssa Milano tweeted a note and requested all who have been victims of sexual assault or sexual harassment to write 'me too' as a reply to her tweet to give people a sense of the magnitude of the problem surrounding sexual assault. Not only did many Twitter users reply to the tweet itself, but many also began tweeting and sharing their personal stories.
In just 48 hours, #MeToo had been tweeted more than half a million times, according to CNN, and that is not counting additional hashtags and statuses on other social media sites such as Facebook, where in just 24 hours, had conjured 12 million posts, comments, and reactions related to the #MeToo campaign.
Women are speaking out regarding their painful experiences, some of whom never came forward previously. Many of the stories I read were even childhood victims, whose perpetrators were family members or close family friends, but the victims, at the time, didn't believe a person they trusted could ever do such a horrible act. However, because of this campaign, these victims who had suffered in silence for years finally had the courage to come forward about their experience. Additionally, it provided an environment of solidarity for other survivors still healing from their attacks.
Campaigns raising awareness on sexual violence, similar to #MeToo, has occurred before. In October of 2016, The Washington Post released audio footage of Donald Trump bragging to a television host about the ability to take advantage of women because of his social status -- "when you're a star, they let you do it. You can do anything."
After the release of this audio, there was an outcry on Twitter with #NotOkay. Because to women, this was not just 'locker-room talk.' This is a man with immense influence in the United States telling people it's okay to speak in such vulgar terms and behave in a similar fashion. Over one million described their assaults over Twitter in 2016, and how did we react as a collective? The offender was elected as the most powerful man in the United States.
And the #notokay tweets slowly diminished and faded, but I can assure you the scars left on the survivors did not. Even with all of the outcries from survivors telling their stories, society did absolutely nothing in response. Through social media and hashtags, it seems, is the only way we're shedding light on this highly prevalent issue.
It's time society starts placing the blame on the men committing these unfathomable acts and remove the blame from the victim. Because no matter what the victim is wearing or whether or not they're intoxicated, it is only the fault of the offender. Period. The "boys will be boys" mentality needs to end now because that is only providing an excuse for these men. According to RAINN, 99% of sexual offenders walk free, and it's about damn time these people are held responsible for their actions.
It is a sad reality that women are not alone in the fight against sexual assault and harassment. Every woman you see, every woman you know, every woman you love has a #MeToo story. It's heartbreaking knowing how many lives have been changed by men thinking they have the right to our bodies.
For all of those too scared to ride public transportation because of the passengers who sit next to you and occasionally graze your thigh, me too.
For those who never spoke up about their assault because 'it could've been worse,' me too.
For all of those who were the subjects of sexual jokes in the workplace, me too.
For all of those who can't walk outside past 9:00 p.m. on a Friday night without a catcall, a whistle, or a kissing noise, me too.
For all of those who have been touched and grabbed by strangers on the street, me too.
For all of those who still have troubling trusting people because your offender was someone extremely close to you, me too.
For all of those who suffered in silence because someone discounted your experience as 'seeking attention,' me too.
For all of those who were asked "well, what were you wearing?" after disclosing information about your sexual assault, me too.
For all of those whose "no's" and "please don't's" were ignored by your offender, me too.
How many survivors need to come forward before something changes? How many times does a woman need to be catcalled, groped, assaulted, or raped before society changes?
The #MeToo campaign cannot stop with simply tweets. We owe it to ourselves to fight for a better future. We owe it to the most important women in our lives -- mothers, grandmothers, aunts, sisters, friends, classmates -- so they no longer have to live in fear.
I will continue to fight until I won't be obligated to carry pepper spray on my keychain. I will continue to fight until I can leave my drink alone with a stranger, and until I can feel safe alone with a male. I will continue to fight until there's no damn offenders left to fight anymore.
#MeToo